First 4-Some

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Registered: 07-16-2007
First 4-Some
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Tue, 07-17-2007 - 10:13pm


Are you enjoying a 4-some, was your first 4-some planned, how did it happen, was it with casual friends or close friends? Were you single or married at the time, did your first 4-some lead to an open relationship with the other couple, did it lead to an open relationship with another couple? How long has it lasted, do you continue to enjoy it?

My first experience was with friends while in college 4 years ago, I was single, but dating my husband, the other couple were single and living together. It wasn’t planned, it just happened as I was watching my first XXX rated movie with my now husband together with the other couple. Shortly into the movie we begin playing around as couples while laying on the floor side by side, wasn’t long until our clothes begin falling off and all four of us were fully naked and begin enjoying sex together.

Later, still naked, we talked of our experiences and how much fun it was, we decided to meet again the next week. We rented another XXX movie and repeated our fun, this time we enjoyed it so much we remained the entire night with the other couple, naked together the whole time. At our third meeting we decided to swap partners for our first time, we then begin our open relationship together. After graduation, both us and the other couple married, we have no children, we continue to meet each other regularly for both 4-somes and as couples enjoying an excellent open relationship, its really been fun.

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Registered: 05-26-2006
In reply to: lindaj84
Wed, 07-18-2007 - 2:01am
the only thing keeping me from a 4-some, or even a 3-some is the jealousy, i'd be way too jealous, i think about it though

**Amy**

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Registered: 07-05-2007
In reply to: lindaj84
Wed, 07-18-2007 - 3:32pm

That's too cool for words... I've never had that opportunity and probably never will. I'll have to fantasize about your experience if you don't mind.

I do think about it sometimes. I think about 3-ways with my wife and another woman where I'm performing like a porn star but in reality I would probably lose my load in record time from the thrill of it all.

I think about my wife and another man sometimes. When she is in the throws of passion she looks and acts so incredible and erotic. Part of me would like to step back and view the action. I've brought up video taping ourselves but keep losing that discussion. That makes me think about watching her with another guy. I think in reality the jealousy would tear me apart. She has said she could never watch me with another girl as well.

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Registered: 10-15-2006
In reply to: lindaj84
Thu, 07-19-2007 - 3:05pm

"was your first 4-some planned" -- We have had several over a number of years and other than a couple of spontanous 3-somes they have all been planned.

"how did it happen" -- Generally we visit socally with an interested couple over whatever period of time leads to a good comfort level and then move on to more intimate settings.

"was it with casual friends or close friends" -- All the couples we have so far been involved with have continued to be in our close network of social friends as well as more on occasion.

"Were you single or married at the time" -- Both married and dating dh

"did your first 4-some lead to an open relationship with the other couple, did it lead to an open relationship with another couple" -- We don't practice Polymory which it sounds like is maybe what you are talking about. All our encounters are experienced as a couple adn yes we've had multiple encounters with the same couple

"How long has it lasted, do you continue to enjoy it?" -- We started in this lifestyle within a few months of starting to date - its been about 5 years now and we continue to enjoy it.

I'm glad that your experience has turned out so well! I wish more people would talk about thier successfull encounters as it seems the ones we hear about most of the time are couples who had problems in their relationship afterwards.

E.