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| Wed, 02-01-2006 - 10:46pm |
I know I've been absent from the boards for quite a while; classes have started again, and I've been seeing this guy for about a month now. I want to have sex with him, but I wonder if I should see a gynecologist before doing the deed. I've never been to a gyno before, but I think it would be a good idea. Any opinions? Suggestions?
Also, last night, we were fooling around, and he popped my cherry with his finger. A friend told me that it may not be popped all the way. What does this mean? Is it possible for my hymen to still be somewhat intact, or could it have been broken entirely with his finger?

The first time I had sex, I don't think that he penetrated me the whole way. The second time he did and I felt the stretching/burning. I also bled.
Of course, we were so young and inexperienced.
It is not likely that he broke the entire hymen with his finger.
I am not sure a trip to the Gyno is warrented at this time, but once you become sexually active -- it probably is a good idea.
I'm confused, and I think you are too. (as well as your friend) Are you under the impression that because he put his finger into your vagina that something broke or "popped"? You may or may not have a hymen, the majority of women don't have one by the time they're sexually active, if they ever had one in the first place. IF you have a hymen....it will stretch, or possibly tear. If it tears, you will know because it will hurt and you will bleed. Inserting a finger into the vagina does nothing more than inserting a tampon into it. If you go to www.the-clitoris.com they have pictures of hymens, and you can check to see if you have anything like that. It's doubtful.
The reason most virgins have pain when they start having intercourse has nothing to do with a hymen. It hurts because they're nervous and rush into it without the proper foreplay and arousal. If you're not properly aroused, you will be dry, and the vaginal muscles won't be relaxed, and it will be painful. Nervousness prevents lubrication. Have some sexual lubricant available, you'll probably need it. If it does hurt, then STOP.....because you can do damage. If it doesn't work, then try again another time.
Any female over 18 should see their gyno annually. Even if they're not sexually active. Once you're sexually active, for sure you should make it a habit. While you're there, you can discuss various methods of birth control, and STD prevention. Knowing you're protected from pregnancy helps to make you less nervous.
Take your time and do it right. Done right, it's pleasure. Done wrong, it's pain.
Some women do bleed, some don't bleed.