first time!! pls help!!

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Registered: 08-27-2006
first time!! pls help!!
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Fri, 12-01-2006 - 9:01am
my girlfriend stayed over at my house last wk and we did it for the first time after 3yrs! finally! i'm 18 and she's 17..we have tried not to do it for nearly 3yrs by just doing fooling around with each other..like hj and fingering..ok now's the question..we did it in the afternoon and i wore a condom of course..at first i wore the condom the opposite way..i knew there was precum so i quickly put it in my mouth for a few times to lick off the precum (i regretted not changing a new one). then at night while i was slping..my gf woke me up and told me that she felt uncomfortable down there..she said she felt like there was something inside her..like air? just uncomfortable..do u girls experience that after the first time having sex? she was on the 9th day of her period cycle. is that signs of pregnacy? i'm really scared now..
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Fri, 12-01-2006 - 10:40am

You had sex in the afternoon and that night she woke you saying she felt uncomfortable.


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Registered: 08-27-2006
Fri, 12-01-2006 - 1:09pm

if air does go into her vagina during sexual intercourse, why did she experience the "queefs" or vaginal farts when i always used to finger her last time?

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Registered: 07-26-2005
Sat, 12-02-2006 - 12:49am

If that's the first time she had intercourse, then she is probably just sore and swollen in and around her vagina. Most first times aren't the greatest for girls, They aren't well lubricated, she's just sore, and she's not sure what she's feeling. Next time, get some sexual lubricant and use it and it should be alright. Do NOT use vaseline, that destroys the condom. Buy some KY or Astroglide where you buy the condoms.

It's possible to get pregnant the first time you have sex, but even if it happened, she wouldn't know THAT for weeks, until she missed her next period. It's very unlikely that she is.....if you used a condom.....and discover it's wrong, then use a NEW one....you don't re-use them, even if they were on wrong (and it honestly wouldn't have made any difference if it was inside out!)

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Registered: 10-01-2006
Sat, 12-02-2006 - 1:46am
No no it certainly is not a sign of pregnancy! If it was her first time, it's very common to feel a bit uncomfortable after. You do, however, need to be very careful with condoms if she's not on the birth control pill. It's unlikely she could have become pregnant in this circumstance but either way she would not feel signs so soon after.
And, remember, a woman can get pregnant at ANY TIME during her cycle. I would talk about the Birth Control Pill with her. It's not for all women, but it certainly has made me much more comfortable.
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Registered: 04-27-2006
Sat, 12-02-2006 - 4:17am
Actually used correctly, read the instructions on the box and I also recommend using Trojan Latex Lubricated Condoms. They are a very effective form of birth control. My girlfriend and I use them every time we have intercourse and we have never had problems with them and they don't cause negative side effects like oral or any hormonal based contraceptive. Good luck and do make sure to use them correctly and do use a new condom everytime you have intercourse.