First time with sex, Help please!
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First time with sex, Help please!
| Tue, 07-17-2007 - 10:17am |
I just started having sex with my boyfriend and it seems like he's getting everything out of this and I'm not. I've never had sex before and he was my first. It hurt the first time but that just went away and now when he sticks it in, it doesn't feel like anything. Is he doing something wrong or am I? Please help, I don't know why it doesn't feel good during sex.

Sometimes it takes a while to get used to sex, and used to a partner. Is he also inexperienced? That can make a difference as well. Visit the website, www.the-clitoris.com, and try to have him visit it as well. That will give you a lot of information about your body and what you need for sexual satisfaction.
Also, what is your role during intercourse? Are you laying there, waiting for him to do all the work, and expecting to feel something? It's not likely to happen that way. Try experimenting with different positions, and you being in control sometimes too. Woman-on-top is a great position for you to take control, and to experience different sensations. If you're in different positions, try meeting his thrusts, contracting your PC muscles and providing stimulation to your clitoris. It takes two to have great sex!
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Along with what Misty said about positions, you moving, etc., are you also having your clitoris stimulated during
What you're talking about is "intercourse" and that's only a PART of sex. Maybe you had exaggerated expectations of what it was going to be.....and it's not.
"Sex" includes a lot of foreplay, oral or manual clitoral stimulation, and that's where most women get the majority of their "pleasure". Your vagina has little or no feeling inside, which is why you need clitoral stimulation during intercourse.
Is it your b/f's first time too? If so, he has a lot to learn. Sometimes young guys don't understand anything about a woman's needs during sex. They are anxious to get to the intercourse part......and they think women are too. Read the website mentioned, and you'll learn a lot about what a woman needs to have good sex, and then you can either show him, or have him read it too. Then you work together to make it good for BOTH of you.