First time sex questions

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Registered: 04-02-2007
First time sex questions
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Mon, 04-02-2007 - 2:47am
I have been dating my boyfriend for several months now and recently he and I attempted what I think was sex. I am a virgin and I expected it to hurt and for a lot of blood to be present. However, neither of these happened. (He was only in me for a few minutes.) I am on birth control, but am very nervous. I was wondering if I really had actual sex, even if there was hardly any pain and no blood. Anyone have any advice?
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Registered: 03-08-2004
Mon, 04-02-2007 - 7:26am

If his penis was inside your vagina, then you had intercourse.

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Registered: 12-12-2006
Mon, 04-02-2007 - 9:07am

What you're referring to as "sex" is really "intercourse". Sex includes any kind of intimate touching or behavior.

If his penis was in you, for a few minutes, or a few seconds, you had intercourse. As for the pain and bleeding, you must not have been nervous at that point, because you didn't have any pain. If there was going to be pain, it would have been from the first moment, it doesn't develop after a few minutes. Not everyone has pain OR bleeding, we're all different. Even though you had neither, you had intercourse, and you're no longer a virgin.

You don't need any advice....whatever you did worked.

Check out the website that Tish gave you.....

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Mon, 04-02-2007 - 9:26am

Welcome to the board Kimmy. I'm Misty, and I hope you stick around for a while -- there are a lot of people here that are happy to answer your questions.

First time sex doesn't have to hurt nor do you necessarily bleed. The more aroused and prepared you are for sex, the easier it is for him to enter you. Blood is usually a result of the hymen tearing, but the hymen is not necessarily intact for each virgin.

Congratulations on loosing your virginity! Visit the site that Tish gave you ... it's a great resource.






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Registered: 04-20-2007
Fri, 04-20-2007 - 7:05am
if it was sex for the first time and tyere was no blood or pain it is still sex some women are like that and some arent, even if he was only in there for a few minutes it is still classed as sex because there was penertration