First time sex - suggestions??
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First time sex - suggestions??
| Tue, 08-17-2004 - 3:45am |
Any suggestions to someone about to have sex for the first time? Things to have with you (a towel, lube, comdoms, etc)? Creative things to do before (shower together, etc)? Positions? Tricks to make it better?
Just doing my research. Thanks for your help!

Not sure exactly what tips to give you cause I've no idea what you may already know. I guess a few precautions would help, along with typical question we've read and answered in the past around here.
-- Have fun. Always always always make sure it is "fun" and NOT an accomplishment. Do NOT focus on just having an orgasm, use the time together and have FUN expressing yourselves and making each other feel good through foreplay.
-- As always, communication is your number one key to enjoying each other, both physically and emotionally. Make certain you AND your partner are to teach and give tips as to what feels good and what works, without making one another feel uncomfortable or guilty for mentioning those handy tips. Working on your communication before and foreplay/sex is your best sexual quality.
-- Foreplay for most couples is THE fun part, and sex/intercourse beyond foreplay is often viewed as the . So far so good? Foreplay is used for getting partners aroused enough for intercourse and/or is also enjoyed without intercourse, especially when it involves oral sex. MANY ways of enjoying foreplay, toooo many to list, LOL! My wife & I usually start off with sensual body massages under candlelight and do so with edible body massage lotions. These lotions grant us the pleasure of massaging each other with both hands AND tongue...yeee haw!!! Ahem, that leads to manual stimulation or oral sex, which then leads to intercourse. Its always something for you to experiment with your partner...no one single way that is better than another, so its up to you and your loved one to discover what you like best by trying different things and picking what you like. Discovering the different joys together is really a big part of what makes it so fun.
-- If you're not afraid of washing sheets/blankets, then I don't really think you'll need anything, but keeping a hand towel handy never hurt anything. Again, try it and for yourself what you may need in the future, thats part of the fun. Remember, you simply do anything wrong, unless you end up 'hurting' at all, LOL! Been there, done that. Umph! As always, you're encouraged to use appropriate protection against pregnancy AND disease, no matter how well you love and trust your partner.
-- I'd have the other members all over me if I didn't mention that females MUST be aroused, lubricated, READY for penetration prior to intercourse. Many females "rush it" for the sake of not ruining "the moment" and end up hurting as a result. Females MUST be ready to the point of actually really really wanting it, otherwise, NO ENTRY PLEASE! Just my two cents along with so many others here.
There's so much to add, but I think this is plenty enough. Wish I had this info when I first started, LOL! Here's some interesting read for you as well:
http://magazines.ivillage.com/cosmopolitan/sex/no/articles/0,,544153_633458-1,00.html
http://pages.ivillage.com/midniterambler2002/goingdownfurther/
http://www.the-clitoris.com/
The last link as a section on cunnilingus that is GREAT for learning together, check on it when you get a chance.
Now always remember, if ANYthing hurts even in the slightest, STOP and discuss a different way of enjoying that won't hurt. If it hurts and you choose to push the limit, you're asking for it. Don't do ANYthing you don't feel like doing...loving partners don't push the issue, right? Right. Let us know how it goes.
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C h a r a c t e r
above all else
Mr. Para
C H A R A C T E R
How about getting on birth control 1 month in advance so you are protected against pregnancy AND use condoms to protect against STDs.
Have fun!
Sara