First time sex..please help

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Registered: 11-11-2004
First time sex..please help
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Thu, 11-11-2004 - 5:24pm
I am a virgin. I have been with my boyfriend for 8 months now. I am ready to have sex with him, but I have no idea what to do. I dont want it to be weird and I want him to enjoy it.. please give me any tips and suggestions. ! THanks
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Registered: 07-21-2004
Thu, 11-11-2004 - 6:22pm
i assume you mean sex as in intercourse..? if you two haven't been close physically, like touching and licking, then maybe start with just that... you don't have to jump into intercourse straight away, take some time to learn about each other's body and this newly found intimacy.

also take time to learn about your own body. know your turn-ons and orgasms. only after you are comfortable with yourself, then you could share yourself with another person.

start with lots of kissing and caressing... make sure you're very turned on and comfortable both physically and mentally. don't be thinking that intercourse must happen. just enjoy the closeness and the special feelings. if it feels at all "weird", then you're not ready. most important of all... protection.

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Registered: 11-11-2004
Thu, 11-11-2004 - 8:29pm
oh yeah, we know each other in that way. Weve been physical in every other way.. just not had intercourse.
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Registered: 05-27-2004
Fri, 11-12-2004 - 12:12am
If you've been "physical" in every way (which is SEX) except intercourse.....did you feel weird doing all those other things? Why would you feel weird having intercourse, which is just another way of being physical, and probably LESS intimate than some of the other things you've been doing.

And what makes you think he wouldn't enjoy it? Doesn't he enjoy everything else you two do? He'll enjoy it.

See your gyno, get a physical, and get on birth control....you'll still need condoms for STD's......and you might want to get some lubricant, just in case you need it. Then relax and enjoy.