Fit versus flabby

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Registered: 09-13-2006
Fit versus flabby
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Fri, 08-24-2007 - 5:59pm

I wrote a post about a week ago, complaining a bit about my dh's techniques.

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Fri, 08-24-2007 - 6:21pm

I think if you voiced concern for the health of both of you, then you would be able to bring up an exercise program that you could both benefit from.





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Registered: 02-17-2007
Fri, 08-24-2007 - 10:01pm
You could bring up the subject that, "Hey, sweetie, I read online today that being in good shape can improve your sex life. It got me thinking that it might be fun if we started working out together so we can try out some new positions." Something like that anyway. It comes across as a couple's thing you would work on together and not as a direct jab at his belly. ;)

 

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Registered: 12-12-2006
Sat, 08-25-2007 - 12:37am

I was going to say pretty much what Suki said......but not about improving your sex life...

Just simply tell him that YOU are tired of being flabby and out of shape, and you want to go on a healthy eating and exercise regime, and it would be so much easier if he would join you.....even if you just do some floor exercises at home.....you don't HAVE to go to a gym. And truthfully, it IS easier if you have someone to do it with. Get him involved....like holding your feet down while you do crunches....make him think you NEED him to help you.

If he won't join in, you do it anyway, and maybe he'll see you looking a lot better, and realize he could do the same. Either way, you'll benefit from it.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Sat, 08-25-2007 - 11:04am
well girl being thrue thise my self i say tell him what you want and think i mean you said ya self way he looks at you im sure he respects your thouts and feelings just as he does way your body chainged after having kids me and wife were members at gym for about 4 yrs and we worked out to geather it was alsome only thing is gym was like 30min away after working we neather one could do it and make it home at deacent hr but i do agree work out more energy is greater sex good luck
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Registered: 02-17-2007
Sat, 08-25-2007 - 1:04pm
Perhaps a better way to word it would be, "It can make sex even better?" After re-reading my post, I guess it could come across as 'sex life needs improvement.'

 

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Registered: 08-05-2007
Sat, 08-25-2007 - 4:31pm

Losing weight is an extremely complicated and emotional subject. I don't believe anyone loses weight until he or she decides to do it. When DW and I got married almost 31 years ago, I was tall and pudgy and she was nicely proportioned. She put on a lot of weight. We both went up and down several times as so many of us do.

18 years ago I discovered weight training. Today I am 6'3" 279 lbs and 55 years old. I am physically stronger at 55 than I was at 25. At my annual physical a few weeks ago, I asked my GP about my weight. He said that all of my "numbers" are so good and since I still lift 3 days a week and do a lot of hiking, walking, etc, my weight "doesn't bother him".

DW was diagnosed as a Type 2 diabetic a few months ago. She has lost 35 lbs, so far. She has completely bought in to the changes she has had to make as far as exercise and eating, but SHE had to make that decision. And now with the physical changes, she is even more motivated.

To bring it back full circle, the quality of out sex life has improved a lot. She can move around so much better and she just looks terrific.

But I still think the key is that YOU - the individual - has to make the decision and the committment, no matter what the reason(s).

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Sat, 08-25-2007 - 4:48pm

Welcome to the board lablover34, and thanks for joining in.

Keep up with the exercise, it sounds like you're doing great!



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