Flew me out for some head...??

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Registered: 08-24-2003
Flew me out for some head...??
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Sun, 06-05-2005 - 12:12am

OK, I think I already know the answer to this..but thought I would bounce it off the great minds here...
Ok, I have recently reconnected with my ex..( long story - maybe I will share later)
anyways....he lives in another state so we are trying to do the long distance thing..which is of course not really anything serious at this point..
I have flown to see him (at his expense) every month for the last 8mos...and we have had sex 3 out of the 8 times I have been out to see him...and the most recent time it seemed like all we had 'time' for was oral sex..not complaining becasue it is one of the best I have ever had...but still I had other plans in mind...and left not quite having my cup filled if you know what I mean...

yeah of course theres the possibility that he is sexin' someone in his home town...or he is not attracted to me like he 'claims'...a mixture of both???
anyways thought I would put it out there and get some oppinions...
thanks for listening..

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Registered: 05-27-2004
Sun, 06-05-2005 - 2:11am
If he can spare the money, and you're willing......it's a long distance FWB.....nothing more. If you do nothing but have sex when you're with him.....it's not much of a "relationship". That's why it's not worth it to bother with ex's. If you break up, there's a reason.....so why prolong the misery?
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Registered: 07-22-2004
Sun, 06-05-2005 - 6:37pm

Hey dymond!

Not sure what kind of opinion you're looking for that could actually help you...with what you don't already realize anyway. Its a long distance visit with someone you claim to be your ex.

We don't know his schedule or his actual goals with you or anything, so we can't really guess part in this. Regarding your part in this, if you're looking for something more exclusive on a more permanent basis, then what plans did you have with him other than just seeing him once a month? Did you two actually 'discuss' anything beyond a once/month trip at all?

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 06-05-2005 - 8:45pm

Are you asking if you have the right to ask for what you want, even though he's footing the bill to fly you out?

I would say yes. If you aren't getting your needs met, then why should being a long distance situation make any difference?

If you have "other things" in mind, then speak up or you won't get what you want from the visit.