Flirting

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Registered: 10-15-2004
Flirting
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Tue, 04-05-2005 - 6:25pm

Has anyone ever tried this? Go to a bar with your SO, but go in separately and sit down at different tables. Then watch each other while you flirt and talk with strangers. Nothing too serious, just watching each other do some innocent flirting with other people. Then go home with each other and have a terrific night of sex, just the two of you.

My SO and I are thinking of doing this. We are both very secure in our relationship with each other and get turned on when watching each other flirt. It's almost like acting out a threesome fantasy without actually doing it. We would never take it that far, but it just sounds like a good way to act out a fantasy.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: iblasters
Tue, 04-05-2005 - 7:12pm

My DH and I do a version of this when we're on vacation or out of town. We like to go down to the hotel bar or club separately and pretend we don't know each other. The difference is that we flirt with one another, not other people in the bar.

Of course, if someone is attempting to flirt with me or my DH before the other arrives, and that has happened in the past, then we just move in and take over.

Neither of us feel comfortable purposely involving others in our little games though.

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Registered: 10-18-2001
In reply to: iblasters
Tue, 04-05-2005 - 10:53pm
It happens to us frequently when we're out at the bars or socialising anyway. We don't do it quite like you intend to do - where you actually intentionally separate yourselves. It's the normal situation where her or I could be talking to people in different parts of the room or something. I can't say that we end up having great sex because of it, but it's always a little bit of an ego-boost knowing that you have her and that other guys find her attractive enough to hit on her. Likewise for her when she sees other women hitting on me. It's always fun discussing a particularly serious attempt on the way home and good for a laugh.
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Registered: 04-01-2003
In reply to: iblasters
Wed, 04-06-2005 - 7:01am

No, only because it might be harder to get out of than I might anticipate ('Can I call you?' 'What's your number?' 'What are you doing tomorrow night?' 'Could I give you a goodnight kiss?' kind of thing) and I'd hate for someone to think that I was leading them on. Don't misunderstand, I don't think it's wrong, I just wouldn't want to extricate myself from an unanticipated sticky situation.

We *have* gone in separately, started talking to each other and then kissing and left with each other. Pretend we're picking each other up.