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foreskin question
| Wed, 09-06-2006 - 5:03pm |
my boyfriend of a year has a condition where he can't pull the foreskin back enough becuase it hurts. It's pulled back enough to expose the head but when he's inside me, it pulls it back further and it hurts him. Now this leads to a problem, because he can enter me but he can't have an orgasm that way. I can't use manual stimation on him either. He's never had a orgasm with me, this worries me, because we have mismatched drives, i want more, and he always brings me to orgasm manually but then it ends. It's like we're not in it together, and that sexual passion is not there becuase we know that he will never get to the climactic state. Has anyone ever experienced this? I need more information / advice on how to handle this.

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It was probably a botched circumcision, and it needs to be looked at by an urologist, or possibly a plastic surgeon. It's probably just a matter of snipping the frenulum.
If having sex is painful for him, then it's either fix it, or have painful sex!
Have you tried using a condom? That might hold the foreskin in place, and if it can't be pulled back, then it wouldn't hurt. That would be a temporary solution, but it might work.
Then that's all the more reason why he should see an Urologist! Does he want to spend the rest of his life having painful sex?
You didn't mention whether or not this is something that just occured with you, or has it been this way with other women before you? (unless of course you're his first!) Either way, it's a problem, and it's not going to go away if it's continued for a year.
He's probably afraid to find out that he needs an operation, and most guys cringe at the thought of "that" being cut or altered, but it makes more sense to have it taken care of and possibly be in pain for a few days, than to suffer with it EVERY time he has sex!
You need to talk to him, and offer to go with him if he's just scared to see a doctor.
Everything you have mentioned makes me think his condition could be something called *phimosis*. Someone was asking a question about this on another board a while back:
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-rlsecretsofm/?msg=9084.1
If you google it, you'll find many references. Take a look at wikipedia for what seems to be good general information.
Good luck to you and your boyfriend.
No matter WHAT his problem is, he has to see a doctor. ONLY a doctor will know specifically what's wrong, and how to fix it.
Westridge was offering a possible solution, NOT a cure.
No matter what the cure is, it can't be worse than a lifetime of painful sex!
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