FREAK UNDERCOVER
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FREAK UNDERCOVER
| Wed, 03-21-2007 - 6:38pm |
I'VE BEEN WITH MY BOYFRIEND FOR ALMOST 2 YRS AND HIS SEX IS GREAT AND ORAL SEX IS AWESOME! LATELY, HE BASICALLY TOLD ME I NEEDED TO STEP UP MY SEX GAME( WHICH I RESPECT )I'VE ONLY GIVEN HIM ORAL SEX A COUPLE TIMES AND I'M JUST NOT AGGRESSIVE IN THE BEDROOM LIKE I WANNA BE. NOW I FEEL LIKE I AM SOME KIND OF UNDERCOVER FREAK B/C I THINK AND DAYDREAM ABOUT ALL KINDS OF FREAKY THINGS BUT TO ACTUALLY CARRY OUT THOSE THOUGHTS JUST DOESN'T HAPPEN. I DONT KNOW WHAT IT IS. ANYONE HAVE ANY IDEAS OR EVER FELT THAT WAY? AND HOW DO YOU OVERCOME THAT FEAR OF LETTING LOOSE.

You can step up your game in baby steps if that helps you -- I'm sure that even subtle changes will be positive for both of you. When he does something good for you, why not ask how you can repay the favor? Or tell him what position you want to be in. Make sure you keep thinking about the freaky thoughts you have during the day when you are with him. How about dress a bit sexier outside of the bedroom and let him know that you are thinking about having sex with him.
Really, the only way that you will build your courage up is to actually take some risks. You can take small amounts of risk or you can take a huge leap and go wild all at once. Also, if he's telling you to turn the heat, up -- tell him you're feeling shy. That you do have things you think about, but you're just afraid of his reaction. Ask him to help you get over your shyness by encouraging you to do the things that he would like you to do. We don't want to be told what to do in the bedroom, but if he tells you he would really like a blow job, then you can tell him you're happy to oblige, but you would like to try it a bit differently....then you can fill in whatever you are thinking about. Have him ask you what position you would like to try, etc. Once you get comfortable being part of the "decision making" process in the bedroom, it will be easier for you to initiate things on your own.
Good LUck !! :)