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| Thu, 08-31-2006 - 7:30am |
I'm a 51 yo female, never married who has had 2 serious relationships in my life. Not that I would not enjoy sex, its just that I'm OK without it for now because of the complications its brings with it. So I live in an apartment complex and one of the young men who is a doorman (he is 22)and I often chat in the lobby when he is working. He is a college student, very polite, nice man. He told me about 6 months ago that he had a strong femine side and that there were many things that he enjoyed that were difficult to share with most girls he dated. He further explained that he liked to wear nylons and would love to explore things like make-up, nail polish, shaving legs etc. He is straight and never appears "sissy" or "feminine". So we spoke about it some and I offered to share those things with him provided he new up front that there would be no sex, no masturbation, no sexual touching etc. He agreed. So I said for him to pick a few things he would like to try and we would get together and see how things went. Ok. So the first night we decided to shave our legs, paint our toenails and go from there. In order to shave we obviously were in the shower nude and we remained nude when we did our toenails. In subsequent meeting, we dressed in nylons, bodystockings, did make up. We also went out to the mall while we both wore tights. We did an exercise class once. We got a pedicure at a salon etc etc. While we are often nude with each other, we have not had sex at all. We do not touch although we will but nyons on each other or attach garters etc. So now I'm beginning to have "feelings" for him and would like to bring this up but am hesitant. I enjoy the relationship we have now although my sister thinks that there may be something wrong with him because she did some "research" and it said that in these types of "dressing", feminine sessions, the male always masturbates at the end. He has never done that. I want to ask him if he wants to be intimate but do not want to scare him off. Any suggestions??
Rhonda

He never appears *sissy* or *feminine*?
If you are starting to have "feelings" now are you ready for the "feelings" you will have once sex gets involved and then when things break off. If you don't mind getting involved in the heartache, then just ask him. All he can do is say no.
When I was in my mid-twenties I was involved with someone 25 years older than me. It was bittersweet to say the least, but it did end because of the age difference and was quiet painful.
Intimacy, love, and the growth that can come from experiencing them sometimes come in forms we wouldn't have anticipated.