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| Fri, 04-20-2007 - 9:50am |
Im new to this board and have some questions. My roommate by the way he is my best friend SO walked in on me getting out of the shower when he was not there since then she has been texting me at first it was just talk about normal things but then it started to get different in one of her texts she said "how he isnt pleasing her and she often as to finish herself off with a large dildo but she thinks I could get the job done". She wanted to meet at a local hotel this weekend but I declined Should I tell my best friend?Would he believe me? Or should I just act like it never happened?
Thanks for you comments
Advice Would be helpful

It depends on how much you value your friendship with your roommate. Or, how much you want to have sex with his SO. SO's come and go, "best friends" don't.
You should first tell the SO that her behavior is inappropriate, and that if she does it again, you'll tell your friend. I have a feeling that if you DO tell your friend, he won't believe you.....unless you can prove to him in some way that you were totally innocent. It all depends on your friend's real feelings toward her.
If it were your SO, would you want your friend to tell you? Would you believe him?
In any case, good for you that you didn't respond to her invitation. You're in a sticky situation....it'll be hard either way, whether you tell him, or you don't. If she makes further advances toward you, then you have to tell him. Good Luck!
PS: You might want to put a dead-bolt on the door so that she can't walk in on you like that!
They are getting married in May. So she is going to be around for awhile and I know he will not trust my story he loves her to much you know what they say love is blind. lol
you should tell her to stop and see if she does
if she doesn't then tell him. is there a way you can save the text messages? ii know mine saves for like 3 days, but i can make it save for longer.
but i'm proud of you for not meeting up with her. it's nice to knwo that there are good guys in the world :)
My cell Phone no longer works since it got ran over by a car lol great timing I know I dont think he will trust my story.
I agree with what the other members have said. You are in a sticky situation. As a woman, if my SO was making advances at one of my friends, I would want to know. I would also want to ask the SO why she was doing this to her friend. If she feels he can't satisfy her, then she needs to confront that issue before getting married -- but not by trying to have sex with his friend, KWIM?
KWIM = know what I mean
Why is it that you feel your friend won't believe your story. I know that love is blind, but is there any other reason why you suspect he won't believe you?
How are you responding to her when she does contact you? Are you allowing her to build an issue, or are you letting her know that it's a place you don't want to be?
She has cheated on him before with another guy I told him and he didnt trust me so I know now if i say she is tring to with me he wont trust that. I told her Im not intersted in her that way.
I think you need to do two things. Pity your poor friend, AND look for another place to live.
He won't listen to you, so remove yourself from the situation!
Sorry I know that's not much help, but you know your friend, how do you think he would react? Also does he consider them in a "serious" relationship? That might make a difference too.