friends with benefits

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Registered: 08-02-2004
friends with benefits
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Sat, 12-13-2008 - 1:23pm
Has anyone here had a "friend with benefits"? Sometimes, I think I would like to have a friend to call when I want to get laid. Though, I'm married, my wife often does not want to have sex. Either she is too tired, in pain from a digestive disorder, or simply not in the mood. This leaves me feeling bad. Just wondering if anyone else has ever done this?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 12-15-2003
Sat, 12-13-2008 - 1:50pm
i have done this.
~k
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Registered: 08-29-2008
Sat, 12-13-2008 - 2:07pm

My advice to you-Just don't get caught-or make sure that one of yourlovers will take care of you financially if you do .


FTR-I have seen your situation before-a much older man who doesn't want sex or can't have it and a wife who has to improvise in some ways.

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Registered: 09-20-2007
Sat, 12-13-2008 - 2:19pm
I did for about six months. I wanted more from him than he was able to give me, though. I was already "sharing" him with two other women (long story short: he was attempting to get back together with both the woman who was his child's mother and with his ex-wife. Neither woman wanted him back, but his obsession with them meant that I couldn't have his complete attention either). Also, he was pretty much a replica of my ec-husband. So it was actually a good thing that he decided to end it between us. Then when he called me almost a year later, on New Year's Eve no less, he expected me to be alone and pining for him. Yeah, right!
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Registered: 12-15-2003
Sat, 12-13-2008 - 3:35pm
yeah thanks barrister.
~k
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Registered: 03-08-2004
Sat, 12-13-2008 - 3:36pm

Even though sex around here is close to non-existent, I never had a FWB and never will.

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Registered: 05-24-2007
Sat, 12-13-2008 - 4:14pm

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Registered: 08-29-2008
Sat, 12-13-2008 - 5:30pm

If your AP is also married why is he talking about you moving in with him? My advice is to take it slow-real slow.


I tried to shoot you an e-mail but it failed. You can e-mail me through the site if you wish.

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Registered: 12-15-2003
Sun, 12-14-2008 - 12:27am

thank you the email i use now, is iluvj0hn@yahoo.com, the excite one doesnt half work, idk wny...


i have no idea why #2 is saying he wants to have kids with me...

~k
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Registered: 03-31-2007
Sun, 12-14-2008 - 7:08am
For me, the FWB situation while married would depend on how my partner felt about the situation. I did have one when single, and it was great, but I don't think I could hide such a thing from my DH. I'm just too honest and up front ~ it would drive ME nuts to keep something like that to myself.














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Registered: 01-02-2006
Sun, 12-14-2008 - 8:38am
I've been sleeping with a married woman for the past couple of months. We worked together and have started something up lately. She's super horny and does get a lot of sex at home but says she prefers the way I do things. I think she is a bit attached though, so I have to be careful about that but she does love her H
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