Friends with benefits

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Registered: 09-26-2004
Friends with benefits
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Sat, 01-22-2005 - 9:29pm
What do you guys think about freinds with benefits,(no strings attached, good clean fun)? Or having two friends with benefits who both know about eachother and don't care?

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Registered: 01-16-2005
Fri, 02-18-2005 - 9:07am
I have been in a friends with benefits situation. It is a messy situation. The friend whom I had benefits with had started developing emotional feelings for me but I only had a physical attraction for them. Not matter how much I tried, the feelings just were not there. The sex was great quite incredible but I did not want more. The relationship ended amicably but it is something I do say approach with caution. Feelings need to be managed and both must accept nothing more will develop. Unfortunately it typically does develop and that is when it starts getting messy.
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Registered: 02-17-2005
Tue, 02-22-2005 - 2:59pm

Sometimes I miss college for just this reason! I thik for some people friends with benifits can be a good thing as long as you don't want more. It's more then a one night stand but not a relationship. Like I said they can be great and somethimes they turn out to be more so don't do anything with anyone who's friendship you can't live without.

~Kelly

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Registered: 03-25-2005
Fri, 03-25-2005 - 1:06am

the fwb thing is a tough one...
I presently have a friend with benefits who i've been fooling around with for about 10 years. we didn't always have sex, but the arrangement is the same. i call him a hobby. something to keep me busy when i get bored.

it works and it doesn't work.
mine started out as a crush, so there was already a little more emotional investment on my end. but i've used him nearly as much as he's used me.

i think the key, and it's something i'm trying to straighten out with the hobby at the moment, is to talk it through. if both people know for certain there was never any chance of a relationship, it would be easier to bail out when one side becomes more emotionally attached.

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