Is "friends with benefits" worth it?

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Is "friends with benefits" worth it?
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Mon, 10-08-2007 - 9:59pm
Have you had a FWB (friends with benefits) relationship?



Did it seem worth it in the end?



Check out this link where Dr. Laura Berman and Dr. Robi Ludwig discuss with Natalie Morales if having sex with a friend is hazardous or healthy.












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Registered: 08-29-2007
Tue, 10-09-2007 - 8:10am
Have you had a FWB (friends with benefits) relationship? I had one in college with a friend of mine.

Did it seem worth it in the end? It was definatelly worth it in the end. All I can say is that if you set the right rules and guidelines it will definatelly be worth it in the end. We were really good friends and always had sexual tension, but we knew we were not right for eachother regarding a relationship. So one night we were drinking, ended up sleeping together, and the next morning we agreed that we would never be able to go out with one another but we could still have a lot of fun. I think for a FWB relationship to work guidlines have to be set from the outset. We agreed that we were just going to call one another when we needed it, and it worked for over a year. I must admit that it was so nice to get some whenever I wanted to.
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Registered: 03-31-2007
Tue, 10-09-2007 - 9:32am
After listening to the video, a new study shows that 25% of the time, you will loose the friendship after the FWB ends. I think the percentage would be at least that high.



Have you had a FWB (friends with benefits) relationship?


I have had a couple of relationships that were like this. One that began as a sexual relationship and one that began as a friendship. In the one that began as a sexual relationship, our friendship did end. In the one that began as a friendship, we have remained friends.



Did it seem worth it in the end?


In both of my circumstances, it was worth it in the end. The relationship that ended, wasn't built on friendship, so the risk of loosing the friendship wasn't high. In the other situation, the risk was higher, but we never pretended to have anything more than a friendship. We had sex a handful of times spread out over a number of years. Neither of us were ever involved with anyone else at any of those times, and more often than not, even during those times, our relationship was platonic.












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Registered: 08-09-2007
Tue, 10-09-2007 - 11:24am

Yes, I've had one FWB and have one in the making. ;) This guy and I never were friends. We met online and established some of the rules right off the back. It lasted for about two years. I think it can work as long as no "attachment feelings" are involved and BOTH parties remain on the same page.




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Tue, 10-09-2007 - 7:24pm

I had a FWB situation on and off for the last 2 years of high school.

Carrie