FRUSTRATED!!!!

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Registered: 06-11-2005
FRUSTRATED!!!!
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Mon, 06-27-2005 - 11:11am
My guy and I have waited three months into our relationship before having sex. It is absolutely phenomenal. The problem is, I feel like we only do it when HE wants to . I need some tips on how to seduce him, ort drive him crazy. Secondly, I know he wants me because sometimes I will brush against him, and he is hard. Third, whenever we have an argument , he seems to turn to online porn...what's up with that??? As you can see, I need lots of help. Any and all advice would be great!
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Mon, 06-27-2005 - 3:02pm

What does he do when YOU want to have sex?


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Registered: 05-27-2004
Mon, 06-27-2005 - 4:30pm

You may have waited three months, but did you talk about how it would be when you finally did it? Did you learn to communicate with each other?

You shouldn't have to "seduce" him, or make him "crazy", you should just be able to initiate sex, and have him follow thru. If he ignores you when you try, then you've got a problem, and the only way to solve a problem is to deal with it....by talking about it, and figuring out what will make you BOTH happy.

Are you sure he turns to porn only when you argue? He may be looking at it ALL the time, not just when you argue. If the porn bothers you, then that's something else you have to deal with.

As Tish said, there are two of you in the relationship, and it's about BOTH of you, not just him. If he can't or won't consider YOUR needs....then it's not much of a relationship.