Gawking!

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Registered: 07-22-2004
Gawking!
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Thu, 11-18-2004 - 6:30pm

Okay people, maybe I'm just a bit too hypersensitive to being noticed lately, LOL! Is it just , or do any of you others think 'enough is enough' with the looks and gawks already?! :(

I appreciate being noticed and even admired at times just like anybody else, but MY o MY are there times when enough is enough! Crimeny!! Does anyone else around here have any problem with being undressed with someone else's eyes?, other than your S.O. that is?!

As if THAT wasn't bad enough, what about the gall of the gawker to actually try and strike up a conversation with you?, better yet, your S.O.?, EVEN WITH wearing your marriage announcement on that left hand?!

What gives? (I'm just venting, brush me off if you must, lol!)

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Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: cl_para1995
Thu, 11-18-2004 - 7:28pm

I'll never forget


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Registered: 10-18-2001
In reply to: cl_para1995
Thu, 11-18-2004 - 8:05pm

>>better yet, your S.O.?,<<

I don't know. It's happened to me too - some guy hitting on my partner as I'm standing there. Maybe it's an alcohol-induced stupidness or something?

Being a guy I don't have that problem but I wouldn't consider an appreciative glance to be a sin - even if I was sprung by the woman as I glanced. But Yes, staring is downright rude and I think that some guys have mistaken staring as a masculine version of a 'come hither' look.

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Registered: 10-13-2004
In reply to: cl_para1995
Thu, 11-18-2004 - 8:41pm

ROTFL....Oh, to have your problems ;-)

Para darling, you must be so good looking...I can't even remember the last time that someone undressed me with their eyes.

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Registered: 07-22-2004
In reply to: cl_para1995
Thu, 11-18-2004 - 9:33pm

I tell ya, as funny as it might sound at first, just think about having your privacy invaded. You can't do ANYthing without a gawker literally studying your EVERY single move, every single gesture, every single this and every single that.

Again, I can lighten up, but JIMMINEY!, the weight of someone's constant stare is just too annoying sometimes, LOL! I'm gonna search for some candy now and lighten up.

:)

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Mr. Para

 

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Registered: 10-13-2004
In reply to: cl_para1995
Thu, 11-18-2004 - 9:43pm

I suppose that it's something I could appreciate if I'd shared your experience ;-)

I'll just enjoy my anonymity for now

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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: cl_para1995
Thu, 11-18-2004 - 9:52pm

hahaha funny story...

My bf and I were at this amusement park back in the spring of this year. We were in line for this ride that was SO long so we just started talking with our friends...you know. Anyhow, this particular day there were school from across North America coming to this amusement park. So I was sitting up on the railing talking and laughing with everybody. Out of nowhere this guy starts looking at me and smiling. I thought nothing of it, just politely smiled back. Then he starts talking to me! He said something like "Don't fall now." I'm very sociable and one of those perky kinds of people so laughing I said something like "Oh don't worry I won't I'm a strong girl!"

So this guy basically just asks me where I'm from etc etc. My bf was there the whole time but I mean, I was just talking to the guy, no harm being done. Then my bf starts getting all affectionate and the guy stops talking to me. A couple months ago he brings up that I'm "hot" and I don't like being patronized so I was just like alright sure. He then proceeds to say" : "You get hit on by random guys..like that guy at the park." I sat there for a second and was just thinking Omgosh he was kind of hitting on me lol. I'm very naive so it was pretty funny to realize that...4 months later lol

My worst experience though...on the bus going to school. I'm wearing jogging pants and a sweater..if that's attractive to men...I'm lost as to what guys like. I'm not one of those "low v-neck and tight jeans" types...on occasion... but not usually. Anyways and he literally is staring at me and looking me up and down. I felt so gross I just wanted to grab a giant cardboard box and cover my body. So creepy.

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Registered: 10-06-2004
In reply to: cl_para1995
Fri, 11-19-2004 - 12:01pm
i actually can relate to this quite well, no matter where i go or what i do i have guys staring and trying to talk to me even if my fiance is right there. and the gross thing is these guys are all ages we're talking young enough to be my little bro and old enough to be my dad or evn grandpa now that creeps me out. just the other day me and my man were on our way to work (we ride togther) it was real early and he was laying down in the seat catching a quick nap and this guy in the car next to me was trying to get my number i was like oh my god thats awfully brave. anyways he isnt really bothered anymore by it though, but acouple years ago in the beginning he would actually get mad and tell me he wished i wasnt so pretty so things would be easier, imagine that lol.
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Registered: 10-25-2004
In reply to: cl_para1995
Fri, 11-19-2004 - 1:06pm
Oh, cl-para how I can relate to this!
Some of them are SO obvious. I mean a quick look is OK (it can be flattering, to have your choice of dress/make-up/beret/boots etc. confirmed. BUT looking and looking and looking and looking - WHY do they do it?
I mean, OK I am a TRULY GORGEOUS BABE, THE BEST IN THE WORLD (LOL), but it's pretty obvious after ONE glance hasn't set my pulses racing, that I am NOT going to respond to ten more! So please guys, ONE look. If she responds by smiling, saying 'Hi', or moving closer, then OK you MAY have scored (but don't assume it).
But if she doesn't - and most of us WILL NOT if we're with our bf or DH, even if you're Brad Pitt! - then LAY OFF and try someone else. Better still, take stock of yourself and GO HOME!
Sorry - but a vent is needed sometimes.
Kim SP
(By the way, if YOU are Brad Pitt, I didn't mean that!)
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Registered: 10-13-2004
In reply to: cl_para1995
Fri, 11-19-2004 - 4:22pm
OK, upon reading this thread, I'm starting to feel insecure for the first time in my life. I must be living in a box LOL Or perhaps two kids aren't the most attractive accessory ;-)


Edited 11/19/2004 4:23 pm ET ET by iv_aisha2004
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Registered: 10-18-2001
In reply to: cl_para1995
Fri, 11-19-2004 - 4:55pm
If you've got two kids in tow you haven't got time to notice the guys looking at you!!
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Westie
(Recovering from a 1/2day babysitting three nieces and nephews all under 8 yesterday. Phew!)

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