gay or straight??

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gay or straight??
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Wed, 02-07-2007 - 8:45pm
My boyfriend admitted to me that when he masturbates, he sometimes uses his fingers to go inside of his anus. I know for a fact that he doesn't get turned on by guys. What exactly does this mean?
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Wed, 02-07-2007 - 9:35pm

From reading on here, I've learned that some men like prostate stimulation. I kind of think about it like a "guy's g-spot" equivalent. If he's not turned on by guys he's straight. You don't have to be gay to like it. Some men like it, some don't. My DH is one of the "don't"s, which is cool for me although I like to tease around with his tush. Since you know he enjoys it, you might try helping him. Don't know if you do oral or not, but it would probably be a huge turn-on for him to receive oral and have you manually stimulate his prostate. Would be the same as doing clitoral stimulation on yourself and using g-spot stimulation at the same time. If you're not into doing it manually, there are apparently little toys you can purchase just for that kind of thing. It all depends on what your comfort level is in doing this with him.

HTH

Sallie

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Registered: 12-12-2006
Wed, 02-07-2007 - 11:43pm

You say your b/f "admitted" it.....like it's something to be ashamed of! It's NOT!

Anal stimulation has NOTHING to do with being gay! He's massaging his prostate, which for some men adds pleasure to their ejaculation. You could do the same for him, either anally, or at the perineum (the area between the testicles and the anus) while you're giving him oral or manual stimulation.

He could do the same for you.....some women enjoy it too......The only thing is, if he does it, he can't go near your vagina with his hand until he's washed it thoroughly....anal bacteria in the vagina can give you an infection.

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Registered: 03-11-2005
Thu, 02-08-2007 - 4:44am
My DW always uses an anal toy(Spectragel Vibrating Anal Tool, Anal E-Z Bend, Anal T or Anal Beads) to massage my prostate while she gives me a blowjob. Really intensifies my orgasms. Toys work better than fingers. Years ago I never dreamed that I would like this, but as I came to understand th prostate I asked DW to do this and WOW!!! Try a toy on him the next time you give him a blowjob or handjob. He will love it. Nothing gay about this-I am straight as an arrow.


Edited 2/8/2007 4:47 am ET by oldkinky
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Registered: 12-19-2006
Thu, 02-08-2007 - 7:22am
Since women enjoy anal stimulation too, I hardly think it is the deciding factor in sexuality. The other posters have filled you in on the rest.


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Thu, 02-08-2007 - 7:51am

What it means is he gets sexual


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Registered: 02-08-2007
Thu, 02-08-2007 - 7:30pm
I am a happily married straight man. I love when my hot wife puts her finger(s) dildo, etc. in me when she is riding me or going down on me. The prostate gland is my G spot and when it is performed correctly can result in the most explosive orgasm I have ever had. I love it.
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Registered: 01-16-2005
Fri, 02-09-2007 - 11:18pm
To begin with he is absolutely straight. For me I cannot understand the motivation for asking such a question unless you are looking for a reason to dump him. The reason he does it is because the prostrate sit about 1/3 of the way in and if it is stimulated it can produce a more intense orgasm. Him doing this in no way indicates that he is gay or has sexual interest in men.
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Registered: 04-20-2007
Fri, 04-20-2007 - 7:26am
a man also has a g-spot just like us women but instead of it being on the outside of there body it is in there anus its also called the prostate gland when a man hits this spot it is like the most amazing orgasm you could ever have
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Registered: 03-31-2007
Fri, 04-20-2007 - 7:44am

"... instead of it being on the outside of there body ..."

Just to clarify, the male prostate (often referred to as the male g-spot) is best reached through their anus.

The female g-spot is located on the front wall of the vagina. It can be reached through the vagina.

Neither g-spot is on the outside of the body.



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Registered: 04-20-2007
Fri, 04-20-2007 - 7:59am
we have a few but the main are our clitoris and g-spot
of course the male g-spot is the prostate gland when they hit that spot they climax like crazy