Get it up!

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Registered: 05-16-2007
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Thu, 05-17-2007 - 3:25pm
I am married to a man who is 52 years old. I am 28. He has a bit of a heart problem and this leads to impotence. We have tried Viagra and this works...but we always run out of pills. I could have sex every night...but he only wants it two or three times a week. Plus, he can't do missionary or doggie or anything...I usually do woman-on-top. When I am on top it doesn't take him long to cum - maybe one or two minutes - and this is very disappointing for me.
My sexual desires are running amok...and he tries...he can get me to good orgasms by using his hands or toys...but I still crave more from him.
Sometimes I can get him really erect giving him head...only for him to go limp when I finally get him inside of me.
What can I do to enhance his experience and mine? I love him and would never hurt him in any way...but I am disappointed with our sex life.
Help!
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Registered: 11-15-2006
In reply to: beckie_okc
Thu, 05-17-2007 - 4:08pm
My only suggestion is if Viagra works, don't run out of pills!!



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Registered: 01-27-2007
In reply to: beckie_okc
Thu, 05-17-2007 - 7:32pm

Does he do the run out of pills thing as a way to get out of sex? If so, you should take a more active role in making sure you have enough.

Have you been totally honest about your desire for more sex and has he tried to work with you.

If it's medical or he's being a tad stubborn, it seems like you're in quite of a pickle.

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Registered: 03-13-2005
In reply to: beckie_okc
Thu, 05-17-2007 - 7:53pm
There are so so so so many ways to get you off even if he doesn't feel like having sex every night. I would say my natural number is about 3x a week; beyond that it feels like my system doesn't fully reboot. Every day is probably more than my body really wants, other than once in a while, say on vacation lol. But my gf does want it a lot more than that ... one really bizarre thing I've picked up on in life is that the more I have sex, the less I need/want to, whereas the more women have sex, they generally want it even MORE often, especially when the relationship's in a really good space. Nothing as hilarious as having one's gf text, "come f*** me!!!" when you've just left her house and are about as satisfied and un-horny as can be. Go figure!
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Registered: 03-31-2007
In reply to: beckie_okc
Fri, 05-18-2007 - 7:33am

Welcome to the board beckie_okc.

Are you saying that he can't do different positions even with the use of Viagra? If that's the case, then it doesn't sound like Viagra is really working for him.

My DH is 54 and sometimes has erectile dysfunction (ED) as well. In his case, he has found that Viagra works very well, and only uses 1/2 pill. We don't need them often as his problems with ED are not "always". Since the insurance company will only let him have an Rx for 6 pills, that atleast increases it to 12. The medicine is very pricey, so that's good too.

There are also other medicines on the market that may work for him. They last longer, so that will be helpful to your situation. Cialis is one of them, and it lasts for 36 hours. Your DH could talk with his doctor and see if a different medication might be possible.



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Registered: 07-10-1999
In reply to: beckie_okc
Fri, 05-18-2007 - 12:10pm
Is there any way you can get more Viagra pills? I think you are lucky to have a husband who wants to make the effort to please you with his hands and toys. I know that it's not everything you want, but it seems like the other things are always going to be a bit of a limitation with him. Another guy might be good at keeping it up, but might have other problems in bed. Try to enjoy what you do have.