Getting On Another Horse...what to do?

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Registered: 12-01-2003
Getting On Another Horse...what to do?
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Wed, 06-30-2004 - 12:02pm
I've only had sex with one guy in my life and that was my ex with whom was my longest relationship. And I'm talking, he the only one I have performed any and all types of sex with. Well, now that I'm talking to or seeing other guys I'm not exactly sure how far I should go with them, considering that now that I've done it all it doesn't seem as much as a big of deal as before. So, when I do decide to perform orally (not intercourse) on another guy should I be pressuring a condom. I don't care either way. It's just that as you all know, when you're in the moment things happen and we may not have something available at the time. And I'm a "you give some, you get some" type of person. What are some of your opinions on this?
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Wed, 06-30-2004 - 12:21pm
If you do not know for sure that the guy is STD free, I would say condom or nothing.

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Registered: 05-27-2004
Wed, 06-30-2004 - 4:46pm
That's a very cavalier attitute.....sometimes when you're in the "moment".....

I wonder if you'll have the same attitude when you're diagnosed with an STD? If you don't know a man, or what his sexual practices have been....you're at risk. Granted, chances are nothing will happen.....but why do you think the spread of STD's is so rampant? Because of people who think it can't happen to THEM.

I doubt very much if you'd be happy to come up with herpes or HIV! If you care about your safety and health, as Tish said.....carry condoms with you, and then you won't have to be "in the moment"....you can be sure you're safe.

PS: any man who'd have sex in any form without a condom, with a woman he doesn't know....doesn't have much regard for his own health, either. If he'd do it with you, then he's done it with others. Good Luck!

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Registered: 12-01-2003
Thu, 07-01-2004 - 11:18pm
Thanks for the responses you gave me. I figured what was gonna be said, and was right and glad i haven't done anything yet. The reason I was asking was because I really haven't experienced anyone but my ex. So now if you can help with this...what in you're opinion is the best way, and not killing the mood, to present the condom for oral sex? I don't know if you think this is a dumb question, I just hope you understand why I would ask it.
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Registered: 05-18-2004
Thu, 07-01-2004 - 11:47pm
>>what in you're opinion is the best way, and not killing the mood, to present the condom for oral sex?<<

Just slip it on in a sexy way.

Leticia