Getting him excited vs. teasing?

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Getting him excited vs. teasing?
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Mon, 11-01-2004 - 7:43pm
Hey Okay...I haven't had sex for a week and I don't want to say horny cuz I just think that's kind of a perverted way of saying..I love him and I just need him. Anyways I'm planning on getting a bit adventurous Friday. I don't want to completely give him head...I wanna kind of tease him but I don't want to be a TEASE. We are going to have sex so I'm thinking...if I just get under the sheets and kiss and lick and whatever else do you do down there other than that?

Techniques plz...what do I do to get him reeved up but not cumming all over my face *hurl*

Also...where's the teasing and getting him excited line? I really don't want to be a tease...I don't want to go down on him I just wanna play around but is that a tease?

Also...we usually undress each other pretty quickly when we start getting in the bedroom but I was wondering if I like keep my bra and thong on when I'm being all "adventurous" is that a turn on? I don't want to ask him yet I want to experiment with a bunch of ways and see what he reacts to more. Is thisa good strategy?? lol

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Registered: 12-01-2003
Mon, 11-01-2004 - 7:50pm
You're not a tease unless you get him reved up and then leave him hanging. If you say you're gonna have sex either way then there's no harm in starting off down low and then finishing off the other way. My ex used to love it that way, I would start off going down and then he would pull me up when he's ready to go further before he cums. Do your thing, he'll love anything you do, as long as he's able to releive himself in the end.
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Registered: 10-13-2004
Mon, 11-01-2004 - 9:11pm
The previous poster is correct. A tease gets a guy horny and then STOPS.

How to get him revved up but not blow early? It's simply a matter of reading his body. When you give him oral - or a hand job - whatever - you gauge his movements to see how close he is. When his whole body starts to tense up, it means he's getting close. At which point you slow down or change what you're doing. Perhaps turn around and let him pleasure you for a while.

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Mon, 11-01-2004 - 10:06pm
The others are correct. You're not teasing him because you will finish him off - just not with your mouth. Do everything that you would normally do. It would be easier to judge if you knew what he acts like when he's about to cum - does he clench the sheets, mutter "I'm cumming!" or do his testicles start to pull up against his body? You might have to resort to telling him "Tell me if you're gonna cum because I don't want you to just yet. I want you to save yourself for a bit later when I make waiting worth the while". Kinda corny but it should work.

Leaving the underwear on? Could be fun. Some guys like it all off, some like some of it on. I guess that you can leave it on and find out. Make a point of making him leave it on you - just because you can. Personally my partner loves the sensation of leaving the g-string on and just pushing it to one side during intercourse sometimes. She likes the naughty sensations sometimes. A new, sexy matching set of something might be nice for a thrill. Needn't be expensive. Anything matching (especially in black) looks great.

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Registered: 10-13-2004
Mon, 11-01-2004 - 10:46pm
>>"Tell me if you're gonna cum because I don't want you to just yet. I want you to save yourself for a bit later when I make waiting worth the while".<<

oh dear, is that considered corny? LOL. I've been using the line "don't cum just yet, I want more later" for ages.

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Tue, 11-02-2004 - 8:19am
Its not teasing, I call it "delayed gratification". I love to get to the brink of cumming and thhen stop several times if possible before. It makes the actual climax much more intense for me. But watch out! if you "tease" for too long you could be in for a HUGE "eruption" when he cums. Drawing it out like that usually results in larger the normal "loads" at least for me. and judging by your "hurl" comment you may not like it:-)
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Registered: 10-18-2001
Sun, 11-07-2004 - 9:13pm
>>oh dear, is that considered corny? LOL. I've been using the line "don't cum just yet, I want more later" for ages.<<

No, that's not. I think that the "I'll make waiting worth the wait" bit is the corny part! ;-)