Getting Pleasure Without Having Sex
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| Sun, 12-30-2007 - 3:13pm |
Hello all-
I have a question for everyone here. I hesitate in posting this here because I wonder if it would be more appropriate on the Taboos board- and if it is, please let me know and I will direct my question over there.
Due to abundant stress as of late and some hormonal changes for me, my longterm boyfriend and I have been having some difficulties in our sex life. More specifically, I'm having problems- sex is enjoyable to me, but I can't orgasm like I once could. He is, as always, very concerned and more than willing to do anything he can to help me out of this rut. However, we've just hit another obstruction- I have just started my monthly period, which always puts a hold on our sex life.
Unfortunately for me, my boyfriend is not interested in sex while I'm, forgive me, on the rag. As disappointed as it makes me, I respect that it's something that doesn't appeal to him and won't pressure him into anything like that. However, we just had this huge talk and pretty amazing "breakthrough" regarding our sex life and I'm so frustrated because we can't immediately hop into bed and do something about it, because sex is off-limits when I'm on the rag.
I should state that we still remain intimate while sex is out of the question and I enjoy going down on him during this time, but I'm feeling like I'm going to need more for me this time. I was wondering if anyone had any suggestions for what he and I could do to make me feel like we're making the progress I know we can during this time. I was thinking that maybe I could pick up a vibrator and that was something he could work on me over my clothes without having to deal with the unappealing-to-him aspects of my period.
I really look forward to what everyone has to say here. After a few weeks of frustration and finally some sort of breakthrough, I would love any and all sorts of suggestions to help me out. Thank you so much!

I think the vibe is a great idea. If you wear tampons and shower beforehand, he shouldn't object to using the vibe on your clitoris without clothes.
Another option would be to try the Instead Menstrual Cups (they fit up against your cervix and basically leave your canal free and clear). Insert one prior to your shower, and you will be as fresh after as if you didn't have AF visiting at all. Sometimes it takes a while to get the hang of using them, but if inserted correctly, you can have sex with them in too.
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