Getting you partner to act in forplay.

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Registered: 08-16-2005
Getting you partner to act in forplay.
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Wed, 09-07-2005 - 11:57pm
ok I posted an eariler post... it was about trying to lower my sex drive... well no luck there, but trying to get my husband to follow through with the comprimise has been hard. we decided once a week was a good comprimise. well, that didn't work... it doesn't if the other werson doesn't want to go along with it... but now when ever we do have intercourse, there is no forplay, it is just straight to the act it's self. I don't know how to get him to do forplay I mean with me able to get it mood at a moments notice helps but it is getting harder and harder to want to anymore... it is just getting boring to me. help Please, is there anything that I could do before I go nuts.
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Thu, 09-08-2005 - 1:26am
Keep the communication going and bring a vibrator to bed with you. Maybe, just maybe he'll get inspired to get more involved in foreplay. And even if he doesn't, then you won't be left high and dry. It's terribly sad that discussing it doesn't solve the problem though.


Edited 9/8/2005 2:06 pm ET ET by katmandoo2001
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Thu, 09-08-2005 - 1:54am

Explain to him that females need a little warming up.....and that you're not ready for intercourse until you've had enough foreplay. And then don't LET him just go right for intercourse.

You seem to be between a rock and a hard place. This guy is either very lazy, or very stupid, or very selfish. His problems go much deeper than lack of interest, or lack of foreplay!

You can't change him if he doesn't want to be changed! You need to suggest marriage counselling, and if he won't go, then YOU go alone, to learn how to cope with this guy.