GF not a big fan of oral

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Registered: 07-30-2007
GF not a big fan of oral
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Fri, 05-16-2008 - 10:34am

I have a "problem"

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Registered: 03-14-2008
Fri, 05-16-2008 - 11:37am
You know I think it is a personal thing for everyone...some love it, and some don't...for me I have never had an O during oral...I mean don't get me wrong it feels great and everything...but it just doesn't do that much for me as far as Orgasms go....I much prefer manual stimulation or IC for that...so it feels ok but it isnt my favorite thing by a long shot....I think it is just to each their own...you know different strokes for different strokes....so just concentrate on what she does like....

cl-sandif2008
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Fri, 05-16-2008 - 11:39am

You need to be patient with her!

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Registered: 04-18-2008
Fri, 05-16-2008 - 12:20pm
I am also one of those who likes but doesn't love oral. I think because the first guy who performed oral on me was good at it but I was young and felt it was "dirty". I never had anyone else besides dh even try it, I wouldn;t let them and I still have a hard time relaxing during it enough to orgasm easily. The times it has been really great has been when we have added a toy, a dildo or a vibrator. Maybe try that? Me personally I love the feeling of being filled and oral alone just doesn't do it for me.

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Registered: 05-08-2008
Fri, 05-16-2008 - 1:36pm
Well, what are her fears exactly?
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Registered: 03-31-2007
Fri, 05-16-2008 - 10:45pm
Welcome to the board, tb_98.


"First off, does anyone have any suggestions on getting her over her fears. And secondly, does anyone have any other suggestions if we can't overcome the oral problem."


Have you tried getting her to open up and tell you what her fears are? I think a lot of women initially think that oral sex is dirty, and somehow, it seems dirtier for a girl to receive than it does for a man. While those of us who enjoy oral sex realize this isn't true, it can be difficult to change someone's mind if this is how they feel.


If you can't get her to relax and open up, then you might have to give up on the possibility, or at least put it away for a very long time. You wouldn't want her to feel as if you are nagging her about it. In that respect, you would only want to bring it up on rare occasions. Also, keep working on building her confidence about how into her you are. The better she feels about herself overall, the more receptive she will be to experimenting in the bedroom.