GF only climaxes on top
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| Wed, 01-12-2005 - 9:23am |
My gf of about 8 months and I have a pretty good thing going. We are both single parents, and don't get to see each other as often as either would like. But when we are together it's great (she's even said so!). The sex has been great, as we are both very much into pleasing the other. Plus, we have open communication about what we like and don't like.
My question though is about how she can only cum when she is on top, atleast that is what she says. She claims she has never had an orgasm any other way, not even during oral. And, personally, I pride myself on giving quality oral (not that I'm bragging, here). Sometimes, when it feels like she may be getting close to climaxing during oral, she starts to giggle, claiming that it tickles (this is usually when I am putting pressure on her clit). She likes other sexual positions - missionary, rear entry, etc. But, she has only cum when she is on top. She just seems to accept that is how she is. I've asked her about it, but I don't make a big deal about it.
I'm not losing any sleep over this at this point. We enjoy sex together and frankly, we don't get to spend enough time together to make this a big issue. If we had like an entire weekend together I'm sure we could go through a bunch of techniques to see what other sexual acts/positions could possibly bring her to orgasm. It just makes me wonder if it's a control issue for her. Does anyone have any experience with this type of thing?
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If you read the other replies, there is nothing for you to have a complex about. Has your husband ever SAID he was unhappy? As we told the OP, it has nothing to do with him, and it has nothing to do with the female being "in control" excepting that she's in control of the movements. Who cares HOW you do it, most men are just happy IF you do it, which is ludicrous, because they're not "giving" you the orgasms....they're just providing the help.
If that's the only position you ever want to use, maybe he IS bored with it. But, you can use a hundred different positions during a session.....who says you have to have orgasms from all of them? If he has a favorite position, why can't you use that for a while, and eventually, move on top of him, and THEN have your orgasm(s).
You're both supposed to be having pleasure, not just you, not just him. That's what communication is all about. He knows what you like, obviously, but do you know what HE likes...and does he get that, too?
Having an orgasm (or NOT) is a small part of the whole sexual realm. There is much pleasure to be had for BOTH of you....regardless of orgasms. Having them is a bonus, NOT a requirement.
i can also only cum during sex while on top, me and my fiance have tried many positions and one day i just jumped on top and it happened. my fiance dont mind that its the only position that i can cum in because he enjoys it more knowing im enjoying it and am getting something out of it instead of laying there while he does the job.
i find it easy to cum during oral too but i find that i cant have it direct on my clit same with foreplay i need to build it up or it's soo strong it hurts. but like everyone else said every woman is diffrent and unique
i also think i might be able to cum during anal, we did it a few weeks ago and i felt a weird sensation and almost ejaculated, but then my fiance was at the point of no return so i dont know if i could of achived an orgasam or not, maybe next time!
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