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gf's rape fantasies
| Mon, 11-01-2004 - 4:41pm |
please help! my gf has this fantasy about being brutally raped. she wants me to beat her up, brusing her, pulling her hair and smacking her her face and punching her vagina. she wants as close to the real thing as possible. how do i tell her i cant do it because it scares me?
she was never raped but her friend was.

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What she wants is very extreme and way out of most people's comfort zone. So if you think that she'll be upset because you don't want to do it, then she really needs to learn more about how normal people treat one another.
Even if you decided to do this there is the potential for some serious injury and damage to her. Not to metion the repercussions from friends, family, workmates and even police involvement when the bruising and injuries become obvious to everyone. Think very carefull about this before even thinking of getting involved with her in this way.
If she continues with this and cannot see your point of view I would suggest some counselling for the two of you. Despite claiming that she hasn't been raped, there is something odd going on inside her head.
On the brightside, she might be able to compromise and you might be able to try some light bondage or SM if you can handle that, and that might satisfy her. These are controlled situations though and I would suggest that you don't try this alone unless you are very well informed.
I agree with everything Westridge said in his post.
I totally agree with Tish. As a rape survivor, I can't imagine this fantasy either. I was beaten, choked, and raped and wouldn't wish that on anyone. Don't do anything you're not comfortable with.
I would simply refuse to do it. Tell her you're glad that she felt she could share a fantasy with you but it's not one you can do. Be firm. And tell her that you love her and you could never in your wildest dreams hurt or or inflict pain on her. And that you never will.
(PS - the counseling idea isn't a bad one)
And frankly, anyone who ASKS to be beat up and raped, needs some counseling. There could be self loathing or a deep shame about sexual pleasure fueling this desire.
Edited 11/2/2004 11:20 am ET ET by katmandoo2001
"As a rape survivor who was drugged, hit, held down, tied down, slashed with a knife as a warning to stop screaming, raped for 6 hours by 2 scumbags and left bleeding and to terrified to move, I cannot for the life of me understand why someone would have a rape fantasy. I understand rape doesn't seem so terrifying to someone who has never lived through it, but I still can't understand fantasizing about it. Just reading your post made my hair stand on end."
I was molested when I was a young girl and many of my family and friends have been too. We all feel the same way about the school girl fantasy. It hits too close to home. I understand exactly how you feel.
But in answer to your question, my DH won't do this with me. Because he finds violence (even pretend violence) to be offensive and upsetting. That's his perogative, and something which I accept without question.
Angel
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