Girl with a question.

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Girl with a question.
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Tue, 04-13-2004 - 7:26pm
Hi,

Just a girl here with a quick question. I've read and heard that most guys love the idea of watching a woman masturbate, and I know that I personally love the idea of being able to watch my guy masturbate (but that is all it is right now is an idea). So, here is the question- how do men feel about masturbating for their significant other? Is is a turn on? Is every guy different? Is it something they would rather just do in private and just be able to watch their signifcant other do?

Thanks in advance for any and all responses. I'm kind of new to this whole sex thing.

:)

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Tue, 04-13-2004 - 7:37pm
To answer a question you asked in the middle of your post, YES, all men are different. I think MOST guys would like sharing it, but certainly not all guys.

The best thing you can do is talk to YOUR guy about it, and about how he feels about it. If you have a good relationship, you should be able to talk about ANYTHING. Just tell him that you've heard about it, and you'd like to try, and ask how would he feel about it.

Believe me, he'll tell you exactly what he thinks about it.

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Tue, 04-13-2004 - 7:44pm

Some guys do, some rather keep it private.

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Tue, 04-13-2004 - 10:44pm
My fiancee seems to be pretty private, but I never really asked him. He mostly likes me to give him a HJ mixed with a BJ and he watches and sometimes helps out by doing it himself just before orgasm so it goes all over me.

He's watched me before. We have a little vibe that we play with sometimes and he used it on me and one night I took it from him and told him to watch. I think I must have been the first person ever to do that because the look on his face spoke volumes. He could hardly keep his hands off me.

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Wed, 04-14-2004 - 9:13am
I think that you'll get a variety of responses. Some guys will be happy with it, some will feel self-concious. Probably no different than how women feel about masturbating in front of their partner.

Personally, I'm quite happy with doing if that's what she wants. I enjoy it too especially if she sits close to me and I can ejeculate on her. Breasts and stomach and vulva are preferred targets (not all at once, Silly) I have no idea why they are, I just find it more erotic than nowhere in particular. Sometimes I am a little hesistant in allowing myself to orgasm as I have a refractory period of about 15 minutes so once I'm done, I'm done long enough for us to often loose the mood. That makes me feel as if I've 'wasted' my erection and orgasm in someway sometimes. Other times it's not a problem and the foreplay continues to round two.

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Wed, 04-14-2004 - 5:16pm
I am more of the private type. Although I don't mind offering a hand during a BJ. But, it is different than just masterbating in front of my SO. I do however love it when she does for me. Double standard???? Yeah, I guess. But then again I am the type of guy who loves to watch girl on girl, but guy on guy is disgusting, so, I guess I do have a double standard. LOL Anyway, just my two cents.
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Wed, 04-14-2004 - 5:23pm
my husband likes to masturbate in front of me, just because he knows that i find it really hot. but more often than not, he likes it when i masturbate him, because it feels better. i think guys are just afraid their women will find it gross or be turned off by the technique.

good luck!

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Wed, 04-14-2004 - 5:26pm
My DH and I view masturbation as something we do as an alternative to partner sex, so it's typically private for both of us. BUT my DH does love it when I touch myself during intercourse although he rarely touches himself. He doesn't seem to be interested in providing a little show for me, he's done it only once that I can remember, in the past. As Jo said, some men are turned on by being exhibitionistic and some aren't. I don't think mine is.
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Wed, 04-14-2004 - 6:42pm
If you're shy about asking your man to rub one off for you, make it interesting by offering up a little bet on a basketball or baseball game. Since most men enjoy sports, set the wager in advance so that if your team wins, he has to pleasure himself in front of you and if his team wins, vice versa. Also makes for some pretty amusing entertainment (especially if you're with friends who are none the wiser!) as you root for the opposing team to win!! Yeah, you risk putting on the show for him if you lose, but if you keep placing bets with him, you're bound to win sooner or later.



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Wed, 04-14-2004 - 10:43pm
My wife would rather give me a handjob or oral sex; she likes to get involved. mac

 

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Thu, 04-15-2004 - 12:53am
That would be me, too, Macman. My DH will show me his erection and I grab it....it's just automatic.

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