girls keep invading my turf!

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Registered: 03-12-2007
girls keep invading my turf!
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Mon, 04-23-2007 - 11:25pm

anyone else have problems with men/women always going after their man/woman?

girls keep liking my bf. he has a really great personality which is why i love him so much, but i just don't know what these girls are really thinking...
1) there are the girls that continue to touch him and stuff
2) the girls that like him and still ask him to hang out all the time
3) the good ones that even though i can tell they like him, they don't try anything and know that he's taken which means hands off.

i don't understand why there can't be more girls that fit into category 3. part of it's them. part of it's me being slightly psycho, part is my bf's part b/c he doesn't realize what he says is flirting, so then i have to go through and explain how it was and what i would think if i was in that situation.

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Tue, 04-24-2007 - 7:52am

How does he react to the girls? When the girls ask him to "hang out", does he? When they touch him, is he touching back?

I think a certain amount of flirting is healthy, but there are people who take it too far. I would care more about how he reacts than what the other girls are doing.



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Registered: 12-12-2006
Tue, 04-24-2007 - 8:36am
If there wasn't some encouragement from him, they wouldn't do it. A guy who doesn't want that, will discourage it.
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Registered: 03-12-2007
Tue, 04-24-2007 - 9:09am

yeah, i agree that it's ok to flirt, but i feel like a lot of girls always like him...there are a lot of other boys to like!

he ignores most of the girls. doesn't return their calls. if they call or text him to hang out, he doesn't. he hangs out with me pretty much all the time. he's home for a few hours a a day and i go home every other weekend at least and he doesn't even go out all the time b/c he wants me to trust him b/c i used to get upset about this stuff and his drinking.

i just feel like if one on of my guy friends got a gf and i'd call him and he stoped returning the calls or talking to me, i'd leave him alone b/c there is probably a reason. all my guy friends pretty much stoped talking to me when we got together. none of his girl friends left him alone.

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Registered: 03-12-2007
Tue, 04-24-2007 - 9:21am

he doesn't encourage it. he usually ignores them. only one girl got touchy and she's just in rebellious, my fiance cheated on me, turn into a whore phase. which she's a friend of both of ours so i don't know what she was up to.

the other girls will ignore me that like him and stuff. which if they're going to run away, i'm not going to want him hanging out with him and not like them.

then there are a few that are really nice to me and will call me to hang out and don't talk to him much anymore b/c they know not to do stuff like that.