Giving oral

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Registered: 09-13-2006
Giving oral
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Thu, 08-02-2007 - 1:54am

I'm just curious...Am I

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Registered: 12-12-2006
In reply to: googolplexz
Thu, 08-02-2007 - 8:23am

I'm sure it's an issue for many women, just as cunnilingus is a problem for many men. There can be various reasons, from moral, to religious, to esthetics. And, if you don't like it, don't do it. In your case, your husband understands (that's not saying he doesn't WANT it!) and you don't do it.

Some husbands aren't that understanding, and some women feel they have to do it whether they like it or not.

As for the "odor"......I can't see where there would be an odor after a shower or bath, but a few hours later, it's possible. In any case, many women are like you, and they detest doing it.....many will do it but get nothing out of it, they're just doing it for him....and there are those who LOVE doing it, and consider it a vital part of lovemaking.

To each his own.

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Registered: 01-17-2007
In reply to: googolplexz
Thu, 08-02-2007 - 12:17pm

You are not the only one who feels the way you do, but I give you alot of credit because you try. I have a friend who will have nothing to do with oral sex. I always tell her that it is her loss. I always find that if I talk to my dh we can usually work things out. Let him know how you feel.

Something you could try is not to take his whole penis in your mouth. Use you hand on the shaft, and maybe play with the head of his penis with your tongue. It may help but whatever you do decide on Good Luck

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Registered: 05-04-2007
In reply to: googolplexz
Thu, 08-02-2007 - 2:37pm

You don't eat an ice pop in one bite.

Like Love It said ... do some other stuff, use your hand.

Use lube or spit, runs one or both hands up & down it, rub just the head, lick the sides, kiss the balls, maybe give a light pinch. Give it a good look, really get to know your new "friend." ;-)

Also, question about his smell ... do you his smell just around there, or like his whole smell is distasteful to you? Some say that if two people are compatable, they enjoy the other's smell. Like how animals identify each other. Pheromones & all that.

Good distraction frees us from emotional pain, bad distraction gives you a mouth full of whizz. ~~~ Guru Tugginmypudha
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Registered: 05-11-2007
In reply to: googolplexz
Thu, 08-02-2007 - 3:37pm

Every guy smells differently. My exBF had this really sour smell (only in his pubic area) even though he was clean. And some people still do have a strong odor there freshly out of the shower (although it is less than an hour or so later). It made it extremely difficult for me to enjoy giving him BJs and it was the first time that had ever happened since I learned how fun it was to do that. It did help when he shaved (he was extremely hairy and I think the hair held some of his natural smell) but even then it was still that same sour odor.

I lived with him for over 3 years .. but I never got used to that and eventually didn't give him oral as much as I would for a man that didn't smell like that.

Thank goodness my SO now smells great to me! Normally even good clean man sweat turns me on. Sometimes he doesn't seem to understand how I can want to bury my nose in him on a hot day LOL.

I agree that keeping your hand on the base of his penis and just taking the top half in would help. You could ask him to shave too. Hair does tend to hold scent no matter how clean it is.




Edited 8/2/2007 3:41 pm ET by tami-kins
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Registered: 07-16-2007
In reply to: googolplexz
Thu, 08-02-2007 - 10:24pm


You didn’t mention if he was natural, trimmed or cleanly shaven? If he is natural, try getting him to shave or at least get him to trim very close, you may want to offer to shave or trim it for him? Trimmed will eliminate a lot of odor, cleanly shaven will eliminate almost all odor, what little odor remains may be eliminated simply by using a good Lemon Soap to wash the entire area, its mild, lemon soap will also help somewhat if he is natural, but not entirely, hair tends to absorb and hold odors.

As for taking him into your mouth, the other suggestions are very good, don’t try to take the whole thing all at once, go at it little by little, maybe half of him while using your hand to stimulate his lower shaft, roll your tongue over and over the end licking up and down as you go. Little by little you should get to where you will be more able to take his entire organ into your mouth unless he is extra big. Hey the couples who don’t do oral are missing a lot, have fun………….

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Registered: 08-12-2002
In reply to: googolplexz
Thu, 08-02-2007 - 10:26pm

Hi there,


When I was with my ex, I had the same problem - no matter how well he cleaned himself down there - even with antibacterial soap!, he always had an unpleasant odor, and I couldn't stand it.

 


 


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Registered: 05-11-2007
In reply to: googolplexz
Fri, 08-03-2007 - 9:26am

xp - Sounds like you EX was the same way mine was. Nothing ever completely removed the odor he had. Its rare because I was married 4 times and lived with 5 other guys for 2-3 years and he was the only one like that. But shaving did help. Just not completely.