Giving oral sex to uncircumcised penis

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Giving oral sex to uncircumcised penis
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Tue, 03-22-2005 - 10:56pm
My bf is uncircumcised, and I don't really like giving oral b/c of the excessive skin and the secretion hidden underneath the skin. I tried to clean it with facial tissues before oral but it seems that he doesn't like it when I wipe it down because he said it hurts a little (even though I tried to do it gently, I guess the head is more sensitive due to always being underneath the skin). He likes it when I give him oral before putting it in. Is there a difference in terms of giving oral to an uncircumcised penis and circumcised penis? What should I do?

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Avatar for katmandoo2001
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 03-23-2005 - 12:03am

Not to be too blunt about it but IF your guy wants oral, then he needs to go and wash himself beforehand! That's only being considerate and you shouldn't have to ask first, it should be understood! Dirty, smelly genitals are a turnoff to everyone!

And IF you or he pull the foreskin back and HOLD it before oral, then you shouldn't have to deal with the foreskin at all.




Edited 3/23/2005 1:48 am ET ET by katmandoo2001
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Registered: 05-27-2004
Wed, 03-23-2005 - 6:45am
What you should do is explain the basic rules of hygiene to your b/f! Any guy who hasn't had a shower within a few hours of sex should TAKE one. If he's still got smegma under his foreskin, then he needs to learn how to wash himself properly. That's disgusting! (and that's one very good reason for circumcision!)
Avatar for elainetwirl
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Registered: 05-01-2003
Wed, 03-23-2005 - 8:07am
I thoroughly agree, whether a man is circumcised or uncircumcised, he ought to be clean and washed before coming to bed with a woman. I have found that showing with a man and washing him to my satisfaction is often a wonderful preparation to foreplay. Elaine
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Registered: 07-13-2004
Wed, 03-23-2005 - 9:10am

if your bf is old enough to have sex he should be old enough to shower and keep himself clean... esp before having an intimate encounter / sex.
anyway, if he does learn to keep himself clean and you enjoy going down on him, being uncut myself i have a suggestion:
PLAY WITH HIS FORESKIN!!
tickle it, lick it, nibble it, tug it, pinch it, wrinkle it... it feels great and is a very sensitive little piece of skin which is directly attached right below the head which is another extremely sensitive area. i do it all the time when i pleasure myself, it feels very natural and is a great turn on for me.
(2 good enough reasons to keep it there: 1st mother nature put it there, u don't wanna mess with her... 2nd it feels good playing with it! why get rid of it? for looks and what has become "normal"?)

anyway, apart from the foreskin being an extra "toy" to explore and play with, any tips on "good bj tip threads" will be more than great.

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Registered: 05-18-2004
Wed, 03-23-2005 - 11:15am

>>Any guy who hasn't had a shower within a few hours of sex should TAKE one.<<

Maybe I'm a weirdo, but I don't really agree with that. My husband has a shower once per day, and more often *only when needed* and I have no problem with that. I prefer times farther away from a shower, because then I can smell his natural smell and not soap.

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Registered: 05-27-2004
Wed, 03-23-2005 - 1:44pm

I agree with you on principle, but it all depends on what he's been doing all day. If he's been digging ditches, or crawling around in grease and oil, he needs a shower.

In this case, if he's "dirty" there, that takes a few days to accumulate, and if he doesn't know how to keep THAT clean, I have to wonder about the rest of his hygiene!

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Registered: 10-18-2001
Wed, 03-23-2005 - 2:23pm

I'm with the others on this (and I'm an uncircumsized man myself). He should quite simply be taking better care of his personal hygiene. There is no reason why he shouldn't be cleaning under the foreskin during his daily bathing routine.

There is also the small chance that his penis is super sensitive because of an infection - something like thrush would make the skin on his penis very sensitive and would certainly cause the smegma to build up faster than usual. I only mention that because, while an uncircumsized penis is normally more sensitive than a circumsized one, it shouldn't be painfully sensitive during normal gentle handling.

If he wants oral sex, then he has to bathe first. There's no real easy way of breaking it to him. Tell him when he asks for oral that "he's been working all day and that you'd prefer if he freshened up and washed before you went down on him".

Are there any differences? Not really. Once you push the skin back along the shaft it's pretty much like a circumsized penis. The only thing that I can thing of that was different was when one g/f used to poke her tongue in under the skin while it was still over the head, and swirl the tip of her tongue around. That was an unusual and interesting sensation.

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Registered: 03-09-2005
Wed, 03-23-2005 - 2:45pm
Just adding my 2 cents to what the other posts have already said. I'm in total agreement that the man should wash himself if he expects to receive oral sex. I too am uncircumcised and I make sure I wash myself down there, even when I may not be receiving an extra treat. I remember my high school gym teacher telling us about the build up under the foreskin, and that when he was growing up they used to call it "duck butter." So if my DW is in the mood to go down on me, I want her to have a clean one to put in her mouth and not one with "duck butter" on it.
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Wed, 03-23-2005 - 9:47pm

I just have to agree with everyone.. maybe he doesn't always need to clean right before sex.. but at least once a day and more if needed and he HAS to clean it right down there!!
From experience I can tell it is much better to give head to a guy whose clean down there! my ex serious bf didn;t wash himself all that well and not everyday either so it could get discuting to do bj and I didn't like doing it. But not oh my god I LOOOVE it!! My current bf who I love so much.. keeps himself very clean (he's very pikcy about hygene) he takes a shower everyday when he gets up in the morning! and also pretty much everyday when he gets back from work.. on weekend he takes it in the mornings and later in the day if he did some demanding activities, so it's always clean! That helps me enjoying giving him a bj.. I just love doing it now! it actually turns me on to do it.. so tell you bf to wash himself more carefully .. and you'll see it will be much more fun!
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Wed, 03-23-2005 - 10:13pm

Have you tried retracting the foreskin and then giving him fellatio?

I know nothing about uncircumcised penises, so I'm really at a loss here, but that sounded good in my head...

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