glad I didn't yell OUCH!!!!!!!!!
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| Fri, 10-15-2004 - 10:27pm |
The first time my so and I had sex I was a virgin..a not too long ago - week ago. Today I went over in the morning and we happened to get all frisky. We didn't give foreplay much of a run the only thing we do is just run our hands all over each others bodies. I'm too scared to go down on him yet and I know he won't go down on me unless I look like I want him too. But I don't because then I'm going to feel rude to not return the favour. Anyways, so as he puts himself inside I almost passed out!!!!! (exagerating a tad) It was SO painful!! It was like a brick being slammed into me! But he wasn't even going hard. I told him as soon as he went in to go really slow. He saw that it caught me off guard. He wasn't this hard or this big the first time. I can't even contract my kegel muscles because it still hurts and this happened about 12 hours ago! Anyways I told him he was REALLY hard it really hurt. I was glad he didn't last very long to be honest, it wasn't very pleasant. Anyways later on when we did it again the next couple times it wasn't so bad but he wasn't as hard or as big as he was the first time.
Has anyone ever had this experience? I was scared for him that I was too tight and that it would hurt him. But I'm a tad bit more concerned about the next time this happens. What can I do to help this along? I don't want it to hurt the way it did/does. It really sucked and I didn't have fun at all...later it was fun though I have to admit. We tried sitting up together with me on top and OMG it was flippin wicked. LOL. I love him he was being so sweet and slow and careful and here I was being such a savage.
Anyways yea any comments???

This is exactly your problem! You should never attempt sex without foreplay. Rubbing your hands over each other's bodies just won't cut it.
Foreplay involves the two of you manually and/or orally caressing each other's genitals. And yes, it involves getting naked together. Don't worry if you're not ready to do oral yet, but manual foreplay is absolutely essential. Have him gently stimulate and stroke your vulva. Be comfortable with him inserting his fingers into your vagina and playing with your clitoris. Don't even consider intercourse until you've progressed to this stage and can relax and enjoy him caressing your genitals.
While all this is going on, you would be caressing his penis and testicles. Don't worry if you don't know what to do for him...he will be very familiar with masturbating and can show you what he likes.
The whole point of this foreplay is too loosen you up, increase the amount of lubricant that you produce and basically, get you ready for intercourse.
You can have foreplay without intercourse - but not intercourse without foreplay
Without foreplay, intercourse will continue to be incredibly painful.
Foreplay is very important before intercourse.
Hi shoegal:
When I am having sexual intercourse with my wife, I do a lot of foreplay; especially manual or oral stimulation of her clitoris.