God did unfair with men

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God did unfair with men
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Wed, 04-19-2006 - 1:55am

Some times i think god did unfair with men as women can have sex any number of times consecutively and man need some interval between each sex.Some may need long interval some short.

I wanted to know man what is maximum number of times they had sex in a day or in some time span.And from women i wanted to know what is maximum number of times they had sex with same man in a day or in some time span...

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Fri, 04-28-2006 - 10:26am

We've gotten way off the original topic here, so I'd like to return.

The OP says it's unfair to men that women can have sex any time they want to, while men are much more limited. This statement actually reflects a very narrow view of men's and women's sexuality. I think I am qualified to comment on this because I'm married to a woman who can have sex with multiple orgasms several times a day. I must point out, however, that it wasn't until we got together (at age 45) that she was able to realize that potential. I think this reflects a basic difference in male and female sexuality that tends to balance the equation.

Men's sexuality is immediate, physical, and relatively fast and easy. The Taoists liken men's sexuality to FIRE. It flames up quickly and easily , but also burns out just as quickly. This is why men can usually enjoy random sex with just about any female they find physically attractive.

Women's sexuality takes time, is more mental and emotional, happens more slowly and less reliably. . Women seldom enjoy random sex because rarely are these conditions met and so they really don't get much out it physically. However, once a woman's needs for time, familiarity, mental and emotional engagement, and careful exploration of what stimulates her are met, she is capable of immense and repeated pleasure. Taoists compare women’s sexuality to WATER – slower to heat up, but much longer lasting.

So what's a man to do? Find a compatible partner and build a wonderful sexual relationship with her. Help her realize her great potential for pleasure and SHARE it with her. If she can have sex frequently and enjoy it immensely, you can enjoy HER pleasure and yours as well. Not to mention how this can connect the two of you emotionally and how the shared intimacy and pleasure can greatly enhance your relationship.

taoist

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Sat, 04-29-2006 - 10:43pm

I am responding to this paragraph not necessarily to the title of the thing.

cl-issytish said "I think (it was years ago) Dh and I hit 4 or 5 times in a day (24 hour period). With having sex usually 4 times a week, he can still have sex twice a day (he's 50) many times, other times he can't.

I dont know how to do this but: how do you handle this... and what enable you as a woman to be able to have it 4 or 5 times a day. and how are you able to have it 4 times a week. I could see a guy doing it that much but you as a woman?

This helped above though. too.

Judith

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Sat, 04-29-2006 - 11:06pm

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Sat, 04-29-2006 - 11:59pm

Women are slow to open up.physically and otherwise.. and how can you open up so quickly that many times a week let alone a nite... If foreplay is to help the woman open up and she is slow going... and ...

That is partly what i mean't by you as a woman.

Judith

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Sun, 04-30-2006 - 8:58am

Sex is not just about intercourse, sex is about everything, from the first kiss, to foreplay, intercourse, afterplay to cuddle afterwards.


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Sun, 04-30-2006 - 9:41am

"Women are slow to open up.physically and otherwise.. and how can you open up so quickly that many times a week let alone a nite..."

Why do people insist on generalizing womens' sexuality? Not all women are slow to open up, physically or otherwise, at least not the majority of the time. I am, and have always been, VERY RESPONSIVE to anything sexual. I could not even be thinking about sex and just lying next to my husband in bed(napping or talking). If all of a sudden, he hugs me from behind, or kisses me in a way, or just does something that sets me off(even if he wasn't trying to be sexual), it's starts a sexual response in my body immediately. Or a "thought" just comes into my mind of it's own accord, and it's starts the same reaction. I may not even require extensive foreplay because that's how aroused I can get.

Sex occurs in the brain, first and foremost. It's all in how you interpret it.

Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )
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Sun, 04-30-2006 - 10:20am

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Sun, 04-30-2006 - 11:02am

Judith,

"Women are slow to open up.physically and otherwise.. and how can you open up so quickly that many times a week let alone a nite... If foreplay is to help the woman open up and she is slow going... and ..."

As Tish and Rain Dancer said, foreplay is not just for sex, it's ALL the time. When you have a relationship like this it isn't slow-going at all. DW and I are very connected and sensual all the time. As a result, she always orgasms in five minutes or less ( the first of several). We make love at least once a day.

Practice makes perfect!

taoist

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Sun, 04-30-2006 - 11:32am
Thank you for this -response. it helpd.
Judith
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Sun, 04-30-2006 - 11:33am
I agree because of my personal experience. thank you for this. It confirmed something I already knew. Judith

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