going down there

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Registered: 01-15-2005
going down there
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Sat, 01-15-2005 - 11:22am
my partner always wants 2 please me with oral sex. When he does go down, i really enjoy it but i have 2 b really drunk 2 do it and i dont no why. Really need help with this?

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Registered: 01-15-2005
Sun, 01-16-2005 - 8:37am
Thanks! You are completely correct. I will try and do it without drink, thats what i want to do.
Sometimes when he is doing it i feel like im going to pee myself, is this normal? i think this is another reason why i hold back and try and avoid the situation or blur it with drink.
NEED HELP!
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Registered: 07-22-2004
Sun, 01-16-2005 - 8:57am

In regards to that peeing feeling, there IS such a thing as female ejaculation, although there may still be some medical professionals out there who would disagree. Check this out:

Female Ejaculation: Real or Imagined?
http://www.ivillage.com/relationships/experts/sexpro/qas/0,,166919_96390,00.html

Is it possible for women to ejaculate?
http://magazines.ivillage.com/redbook/dh/eq/qas/0,,166925_288407,00.html

Am I urinating or ejaculating during orgasm?
http://www.ivillage.com/relationships/experts/sexcoach/qas/0,,166919_17223,00.html

Now what you COULD do is either explain to your gent that it is possible for you to ejaculate during sex, and yes during oral, and that it be quite the surprise if it does happen but that its completely normal...

...or...

...you could just bring him on in to a webpage or two that describes it for you. Either way, the KEY is to COMMUNICATE with him and make certain he knows your fears and concerns and embarrassing feelings about this. For all you know, HE may be the very one that can help you like no message board or webpage can. Its going to be HE that'll make you more comfortable with yourself and with him enjoying you without you feeling too unnecessarily embarrassed about your body.

FYI, many of us couples are prepared with towels or special blankets/sheets just in case there is an incident.

Also, and this is just a trick I believe in so take it as you will, enjoy the foreplay...ENJOY it. Your time to loosen up and relax and "read" his every move on you prior to cunnilingus is your time to realize just how much he adores your whole body and that very very special part of your body down there as well.

Try this website also if you haven't been to it yet:

http://the-clitoris.com/

Won't find anyone here, not even the older ones, that would not appreciate that site, so check it out.

BY THE WAY...LOL!, congrats congrats on being blessed enough to have such a great guy in the first place. Just had to get that one out there. :)

C h a r a c t e r


above all else


Mr. Para

 

C  H  A  R  A  C  T  E  R

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Registered: 05-27-2004
Sun, 01-16-2005 - 10:07am

That feeling of needing to urinate is completely normal. You should empty your bladder before starting, then you'll KNOW that you're not going to do it. The feeling is part of the whole pleasure process....and it happens because your urethra is just below your clitoris, and it's getting some "stimulation", too.

As for you not thinking your vulva looks "sexy"......well, you're not a guy, so naturally you don't think it's sexy. Guys don't think their penis is sexy, either, but women do. That's normal for heterosexuals. You don't HAVE to think it's sexy, HE does!

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Registered: 06-01-2003
Sun, 01-16-2005 - 10:39am
Goodness, wish I had your problem. Try loving to be given oral sex, but being with a man who can't stand to do it. It's like being a diabetic ice cream shop owner.
Red
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Registered: 01-15-2005
Sun, 01-16-2005 - 11:11am
Hi red, i no i should be lucky! Why does your man not like oral sex?
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Registered: 09-20-2004
Sun, 01-16-2005 - 12:27pm

Hi Claie
Ok so I'm a guy but I love going down on my lass, just so intense but it took me nearly 6 years of our marraige to persuade her that she was gorgeous there and even then, that was because she was pregnant at the time and regular sex was uncomfortable.

As for feeling like you need to pee just stick some towels under your ass and let him get on with it and don't be self concious (sp?) about it.

When my love really lets herself go with me down there she wet's herself as she totally looses it, she'll even admit that those are the best orgasms she has, out of control, and I haven't been drowned yet, although you might want to warn your man.

It's just an awesome experiance try it ,sure you'll enjoy it
cheers Jacobite

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Registered: 01-15-2005
Sun, 01-16-2005 - 1:09pm
Hi, jacobiteone thanks 4 ure input i will do it 1 day!
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Registered: 01-15-2005
Sun, 01-16-2005 - 11:14pm
The urge to pee is normal! Trust me! One thing that might help is going pee before, and wiping with a wet rag, and then rite after you all are completely done....go pee again...it helped me a lot. But like everyone else said, female ejaculation is possible, I do it...
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Registered: 06-01-2003
Sun, 01-16-2005 - 11:48pm
In response to your question, who knows? I can only guess, and would probably guess wrong. It is just a cross to bear, I guess. Sometimes I wish I'd never experienced it, so I wouldn't know what I'm missing. Silly, huh?
Red
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Registered: 01-15-2005
Mon, 01-17-2005 - 8:56am
Thanks, you have made me feel alot better, my partner also after all he is only trying to please me.
Post you back ill let you koow how i get on, quite looking forward to it now!

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