going solo. tips please.

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Registered: 03-26-2005
going solo. tips please.
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Sat, 03-26-2005 - 11:16am

a couple of my friends have admitted to using different objects during solo sex, just objects they have around their room or house. Is this safe? im not sure whether to try it and if so what kind of objects are suitable, as i dont want to go and buy anything?

the other issue is i have tried using my fingers before and it felt uncomfotable and not at all pleasurable. I have tried since and still the same thing happens, could this be down to not really knowing what im doing because my fingers dont seem to go any further in than a few centimetres.

does anyone have any tips on pleasuring yourself externally down there. help.plz

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Registered: 03-26-2005
Sat, 03-26-2005 - 11:37am
Well, there is lots of good friendly info on the web on this subject if you look for it, so have a surf. In the meantime, I suggest concentrating on the clitoris. You may want to work on the area around it first, before going directly for it, and just experiment with different pressures rythmes etc. A little lubrication will help too. Setting mood first can also help - a relaxed atmosphere where you know you won't be disturbed will help greatly, maybe some music, although I personaly find it distracting. Think sexy thoughts and explore your body, and the rest will happen soon enough.
And don't be put off if it takes you a few goes, it took me a bit of trial and error too.
Have fun! :)
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Registered: 10-18-2003
Sat, 03-26-2005 - 12:26pm

Why use different objects? Dildos and vibrators aren't expensive and are not only safe but *designed* for a woman's pleasure.


As to fingers, I don't insert my fingers when masturbating. I instead use them to fondle/touch/massage/whatever my clitoris.



Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Sat, 03-26-2005 - 12:29pm

Many household objects are safe to use (make sure they are washed well first).


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