Good or VERY Bad??

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Registered: 10-28-2004
Good or VERY Bad??
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Fri, 12-09-2005 - 5:49am

I have never been on this board and don't know the proper abbreviations etc. but I HAVE to know...

I have been with my boyfriend for about 2 years and we have sex as much as possible. Twice during the last 2 years I have been drunk when we had sex and both times I was constantly grabbing his balls while we were having sex.

I have no idea why I did it and I am so embarrassed. He didn't seem to mind (from what I remember) and he never really mentioned it after. I don't know whether it is a bad thing to do and he would never hurt my feelings by saying something.

I have avoided wine with dinner since then because I am afraid that I will do something stupid again.

Should I be worried or is that normal?

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Registered: 11-02-2005
Fri, 12-09-2005 - 7:01am
AS long as you were not slapping at them or caused any injury/discomfort, I don't see anything wrong with it.It's not bad and you shouldn't feel embarrassed. Next time, when you're not drunk, just play with them-I bet he'll like it.
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Fri, 12-09-2005 - 9:18am

Welcome to the board Jenny.


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 12-09-2005 - 12:49pm

Well, it's ALL just so GRABBABLE down there, isn't it? LOL!

Why should you feel funny about giving him pleasure and expressing yours? And that's what you were doing unless he asked you to stop. Since he didn't, then he must have enjoyed it. My DH certainly does! Most men enjoy some kind of stimulation and attention paid to them and say so if they don't.

Nothing abnormal or weird about caressing and even licking, etc. any part of his genitalia.

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Registered: 01-27-2005
Fri, 12-09-2005 - 2:54pm

Hello Jenny,

As a guy, let me say you should not feel embarrassed, and should certainly not stop enjoying a good glass of wine, or two over this.

I have found over the years, that as well know as it is that men are fasinated with a women's breasts, that women are just as fasinated with a man's genitalia. With few exceptions, over the years, Women have enjoyed and encouraged me to "pay attention" to thier breasts during sex, And I have encouraged them to explore, discover and do anything else they wish to me during sex, and all have. It should be a time of mutual exploration, and attempts to offer and give mutual pleasure, you are sharing your most precious positions, your body.......

On my part, my feeling is it was NOT Stupid....And if your boyfriend had wanted you to stop, he would have said so..............

The very next time you are in the midst of sexual enjoyment, make an attempt to "Grab" him again, and I bet he will again not say stop...he will probably help, and encourage you.......

And if you are sharing your bodies, you should be able to talk about each others likes and dislikes.....So talk to him.....while you are "Grabbing Him" ask him if it feels good, ask him what else he wants you to do, tell him what you want to do !!....it is all part of the exploration process...go for it...explore, learn have fun......

"Should I be worried or is that normal" Speaking as a Guy, It is absolutely normal

But remember, This is a "Guys" point of view........

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 12-09-2005 - 3:17pm
Surely, you aren't claiming, by using that comparison of breasts and male genitalia, that men aren't equally intrigued by female genitalia, are you? I hope not because all the men I've ever known are VERY interested.
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Registered: 10-28-2004
Fri, 12-09-2005 - 3:56pm

Thanks! I think it's mainly just embarrassing because I had never done it before and then probably went a little overboard. Luckily, I wasn't being rough about it.

Anyway, thanks for the reply. I feel much better. I should be able to look at him without blushing within a few weeks.

Jenny

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Registered: 04-21-2004
Fri, 12-09-2005 - 6:34pm
Ask him. There's no universal rule. Personally, I love having my poys tugged, slapped, scratched, squeezed, and generally abused during sex. Things that would normally bring me to tears turn into pleasure when I'm having sex. But other guys really don't want that sort of thing.

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