Is this a good prediction of desire?
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Is this a good prediction of desire?
| Thu, 07-01-2004 - 4:18pm |
This is a kind of before and after question. When you were a virgin, was your interest in sex a pretty good prediction of your enjoyment and need of sex after virginity?
Example-A virgin who enjoys solo sex and is easily aroused and can easily experience orgasms. After experiencing sex, did she enjoy sex as much and was the sex the icing on the cake? OR Did sex make her an even more high libidoed person, or was it a let down?
What was your experience? I was thinking that a virgin with a high desire factor and need for solo sex and fantasy would most likely really enjoy and need sex after the actual sex.

I couldn't agree more. This is exactly how I was, right down to the tee. Wait, I actually have to say that it also increased my libido. And the better the sex got, the more I wanted it!! Now I can hardly go one day, let alone two, without wanting to attack JT at one point in time or another. Not unless I am extremely stressed because of my jobs or my performance in a swim meet.
Edited 7/1/2004 4:37 pm ET ET by sweetbutterfly36
No, not really. Having sex with a person is very different than masturbation. Masturbation is all about you. Partner sex isn't. And orgasming with another person is VERY different than solo orgasms. Took some time for me to be able to let go and enjoy myself with a partner, and I think it's that way with most women. It takes lots of good honest communication to learn how to please another person and often, that's lacking when you first become sexually active.
<> I knew quite a bit about my body and what felt good, etc before having partner sex.
Masturbation is sex for the sake of sex.....it's a solo activity, with nothing in mind but self pleasure. Sex with a partner is very different. You have another person to consider, and hopefully FEELINGS for that person. Sex with a partner is not so much about your own pleasure as it is about mutual pleasure, giving as well as receiving.
I get nothing out of masturbation, never did, never will. Following your theory, I wouldn't be very interested in partner sex, either, and nothing could be farther from the truth.