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Guy Fantasies!
| Wed, 11-17-2004 - 2:00pm |
Can guys still have fantasies about women they are angry at? I'm just curious. I have known this man for well over 25 years. We were together when we were younger for 3 years, we were friends for 20 and then we got back together for another 2. I found out when we got back together that he still had very vivid memories of us in bed from when we were younger and now as adults the sex was amazing! We definately still have chemistry. However, I found out that he had been lieing to me about another relationship he had, he said it was over, it wasn't. We got into a pretty huge fight and we haven't made up, and I don't think I want to. Last night while out with the girls, we were discussing men's fantasy's. They said he probably still fantasizes about me. I'm just a bit curious, I can't have fantasies about him anymore. I'm mad. But can guy's really put that aside when it comes to fantasies and sex? Just curious.....

Dear OP,
I don't think it has anything to do with male or female. Some people can fantasize about another while still being angry and others cannot. As human beings, we are able to feel multiple feelings at the same time. The person that you hate the most can also be the person that you love the most...in fact, in a relationship that is new and still in its deep infatuation or eros phase (this usually lasts the first three years) most of us vascilate between passionate, deep, loving feelings and deep anger and hatred, that's why love triangles have the potential to be the most violent of murder scenarios, (and also why you are so angry with him by the way). THere are a lot of interesting psychological reasons for this, which I won't go into...but to make a long story short: Yes. It's possible to have both sets of feelings.
Peace.
Scott.
Why would you even care what he fantasizes about? You broke up with him.....for good reason. He's a liar. Are you hoping he's suffering? NOT!
As for being mad at him, another waste of your time and energy. You're all worked up about what was done to you, and he really doesn't give a tinkers dam what you feel or care about. He's still got lady #1!
"Fool me once, shame on you! Fool me twice......shame on me!