Guy to last longer

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Registered: 01-27-2006
Guy to last longer
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Wed, 02-14-2007 - 3:53pm
My guy was a virgin up until he met me. We recently had sex for the first time. I know a lot of it had to do with emotions and jitters, but he came very fast. He was very frustraited with himself, but I told him not to worry and to just relax, but every time after that, he was still quick. Are there any ways that I can either get him to relax, or to last longer?
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Registered: 12-12-2006
Wed, 02-14-2007 - 11:49pm
You can't do it, but he can! But you also have to explain to him that if he's giving you enough foreplay before intercourse, you'll already be satisfied, so it really doesn't take away from YOUR pleasure. He's thinking, like all beginners that intercourse is the be-all end-all for women just as it is for men....and explain to him that it's not, so that will take the "pressure" off him (that he's putting on himself!). Also, he can learn to control it better with the stop-start method. When he feels ready, he has to calm himself down, and stop for a few seconds till he gets control. It takes time, and it takes practice, but he can do it.
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Registered: 10-18-2001
Thu, 02-15-2007 - 3:23am
Usually, in most cases, the guy just learns to control himself with time and practice. Encourage him to extend the foreplay and teach him that sex is more than just two minutes of intercourse too.
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Registered: 10-30-2003
Sat, 02-17-2007 - 8:48pm

Practive practice practice....someone's got to do it!!!

You / he has to learn this stuff too.

Send him to some web sites.

Resit the temptation to sit on his face for a little while till he gets use to you!!! LMAO

Get him to warm you up in advance a little bit.

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Registered: 02-19-2007
Mon, 02-19-2007 - 6:04pm
You can change positions during sex. That helps. He can slow down when he feels he is going to orgasm..... get control and then start again. Also........ practice makes perfect.
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Registered: 11-03-2003
Wed, 02-28-2007 - 5:16pm

Here's a very effective technique. Have you - or himself - masturbate using lubricant. KY or similar lube is good; hand lotion or baby oil works well but can sting a little if it gets in the opening. This better simulates the feeling of a lubricated vagina, and work on stopping just before orgasm. Rest until the pulse slows a little, then repeat.

I didn't have much experience before meeting DW, and due to the tremendous excitement level I didn't last long. I read this just after meeting DW and within days could last 45 minutes. Good luck - have fun - be safe.