% of guys-penis size insecurity

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Thu, 01-11-2007 - 6:53am
This isn't another 'does size matter' question. I'm asking the ladies how many of your boyfriends and husbands have had penis size insecurity, and how many didn't. Also, to the guys, have you had or do you have, insecurity about your size?

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Sat, 01-13-2007 - 9:14am

cerryl wrote: "I don't think anyone is 100% secure all the time"
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I realise that so far some responses from posters have been that no insecurity was/is apparent. But even in those cases I do wonder if the guy would have some insecurity surface if he and his wife/gf were out and about and ran into an ex of hers and he happened to an obviously thick long erection running down in his pants. I think that would put his security to the test, for it's one thing to push something to the back burner (such as penis size) and go with life, but's it's another thing when reality stares one in the face. Would he still be 100% confident after that encounter. I think he would wonder about some trhings after that. Why hadn't she mentioned it? Was it better to her? If she is sort of quiet during intercourse he might wonder if she was vocal when the big ex was riding her. I know that sounds blunt, but these are the type of questions guys will think about if some insecurity exists.

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Sat, 01-13-2007 - 9:42am
been-there!
What guys do you know that get erections from running?
Where and when did this happen to you?
once.
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Sat, 01-13-2007 - 10:23am


By been-there "I think that would put his security to the test, for it's one thing to push something to the back burner (such as penis size) and go with life, but's it's another thing when reality stares one in the face. Would he still be 100% confident after that encounter. I think he would wonder about some trhings after that. Why hadn't she mentioned it? Was it better to her? If she is sort of quiet during intercourse he might wonder if she was vocal when the big ex was riding her. I know that sounds blunt, but these are the type of questions guys will think about if some insecurity exists."

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That is very much my situation. I never had any questions about my size until I found out about her ex and his size (and I have met him, too). I especially think about it since the ex in question was a booty call for her for over 2 years. They kept seeing each other just for the sex. In fact, they never really "dated", just met for sex.

Keep in mind that this isn't something that I think about all the time or anything. But those questions do come to mind from time to time. In fact, I even decided to test and see if she would be any different if I were bigger. So I went out and got an extension (which made me longer and much thicker), and her reaction when I used it was quite different than without it. A lot more moaning and groaning than normal. And she did seem to orgasm differently (if her facial expressions and body language were any indication). Now, this isn't something that we use every time or anything, but it is something that she has stated that she likes from time to time.

BTW, she has never complained about my size or anything. She has told me that I am the best at going down on her that she has ever had, and she says that that is more important to her.

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Sat, 01-13-2007 - 11:00am

shotier,

I was just giving an example in an attempt to get my point across.
Sure, it's an unusual occurance, but I have a very good memory and I do remember about 10 times over the years where a guy had an obvious hard on in his pants. The ones I remember - three of the times the guys looked to above average size length with regular thickness, two of the times the guys looked to be very long with above average thickness, once a guy looked long and thick, once a guy looked on the short side but thick, twice the guys looked completely average, and once a guy looked small. I even recall the various places I saw them at and some details. For instance, the two I mentioned that was very long and above average in thickness, one of those was actually at a bowling alley bowling several lanes down from our lane. There was a woman bowling with him. My girlfriend exclaimed "My god!". Of all places,in a bowling alley with that showing in his pants. The other one of that size was coming out of a bank as I was pulling up in my car to park and go in. The bank guy and the bowling alley guy were both black. The one that looked a little less in length than those two (but still long) and thicker was leaning against a post at a horse race track. He was also black.

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Sat, 01-13-2007 - 11:07am

I'm not meaning to get at you at all because everyone has their own experiences. But I guess this is partly an overspill from some messages on another board. Why are the men's skin colour relevant?

Just asking

I can solve all of life's problems by asking myself a simple question:  What would Stone Cold Steve Austin do in this particular situation?

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Sat, 01-13-2007 - 11:41am

That was not an overspill on my part from the other board. I have always been one to pay attention to all details. I only read it quickly, but if I am correct, it appears from your poststhat you indeed don't have insecurity. So you can't relate to why I would noice that the biggest ones were black. Someone with insecurity though will pay attetion to anything that is directly, or indirectly involved. You may not believe black men are more hung, but the vast majority of women say otherwise. Even women that say size doesn't matter will say it is so. I'm just speaking in general, of course, as there are white guys bigger than some black guys. The reason why it matters to me has nothing to do with skin color. I'm not a racist at all. The reason why it matters to me is because it helps me to pinpoint the competition from a penis size standpoint. To me, it's about size. I'm a member of a penis enlargement form, and have been a part of tons of discussions there.

Let's see if I can help you understand where I'm coming from. At the penis enlargement forum a poll was begun that compared our heights to our penis lengths. Many thought that there would be no correlation. Instead, a moderate correlation was found. So that helps me to understand that while it's not an absolute by any means, taller guys do tend to have a higher occurrance of longer penises. Does that mean I dislike tall guys? No, it does not mean that. I get along with taller guys the same no matter what their height. I'm a percentage guy. I like to know the odds. I just named one poll I've been involved in there. I've joined in in many various discussion and polls about many aspects pertaining to the penis size subject. I've participated in the analysis of many doctor studies from around the world on penis sizes. I could go and on.

You are apparently more of a right brain thinker. You think in creative terms and complete picture. I'm more of a left brain thinker. I think in parts and apply logic to everything, even the nuts and bolts to sex.

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Sat, 01-13-2007 - 12:19pm
At any rate, I only posted on the only board to help the guy. That was my sole purpose for the post. It's been deleted. I'm tired of posting anyway. Don't expect any more responses from me.
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Sat, 01-13-2007 - 12:51pm

I was actually referring to my own message being an overspill from the other board.

Nope, there's no insecurity on my part, and no accusations of racism either. I guess I was just trying to catch you out, which I know I shouldn't have.

It just struck me though, one of the things I said in my OWN post on the other board, which was supported by others, was that I only ever hear White people talking about that particular stereotype. I don't actually know your colour so maybe it's completely irrelevant. But what got me about your post was why you mentioned the men's skin colour, I still cannot see the relevance of it even reading it again.

As for your belief that the majority of women would say Black men are more hung, I would strongly disagree with that.

No agression, just my thoughts.

I can solve all of life's problems by asking myself a simple question:  What would Stone Cold Steve Austin do in this particular situation?

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Sat, 01-13-2007 - 1:16pm
My post does not only contain that particular detail that could be viewed as irrevelant, but many other details I threw in that could be considered unnecessary to the main purpose of that post. You focus on that one detail of racism in the world and you have become sensitive to that. Since I'm not a racist I don't see the revelance in your post, though I understand. Maybe you can try to understand.
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Sat, 01-13-2007 - 1:33pm

Alright, I misunderstood you, and maybe you did the same to me.

No hard feelings, I'm happy to leave it at that.

And please, do continue to post. Sometimes my posts don't get the reception I'd want but it just makes me more eager to keep posting.

God Bless

I can solve all of life's problems by asking myself a simple question:  What would Stone Cold Steve Austin do in this particular situation?

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