% of guys-penis size insecurity

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Registered: 07-05-2005
% of guys-penis size insecurity
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Thu, 01-11-2007 - 6:53am
This isn't another 'does size matter' question. I'm asking the ladies how many of your boyfriends and husbands have had penis size insecurity, and how many didn't. Also, to the guys, have you had or do you have, insecurity about your size?

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Registered: 04-17-2003
Wed, 02-21-2007 - 9:57am

I spin nothing, in my experience guys that are so fixated on their penis know little about how to please someone, man or woman. I didn't make anything personal, you're the one here who's posting thread after thread and post after post about penis this and penis that. Dude, it's the same song and it gets old.

Me, I'd take someone average looking who could make me FEEL GOOD emotionally and doesn't care about his penis over someone that's hot looking but so hung up on their penis that it's all they talk about while popping pills and hanging weighted objects from it in some vein ill-fated attempt to 'make' themselves better in bed.

Furthermore, you take these same guys and throw '10 inches of meat' on them and I'd bet the farm they still wouldn't have a clue on how to please someone.

 

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Registered: 11-13-2006
Thu, 02-22-2007 - 8:45pm
My guy is the perfect size for me. He once asked me out of all the guys Ive slept with in the past who was the biggest and such. So, I figure most guys are wanting to ask that. And of course I didnt tell him that information. But, I think my guy is pretty secure about himself (and he has every righ to be). Because before we ever had sex he warned me about his members larger size...lol
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Registered: 10-16-2006
Thu, 03-01-2007 - 12:27pm
I think most guys want to "rank themselves" against other guys, especially guys that have slept with their woman. I'm not sure it's insecurity, just curiosity. Maybe the smaller guys have some security issues, but the larger guys are just hoping that the answer is going to be "oh, you're the biggest, baby, the biggest by far."
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Registered: 11-22-2004
Thu, 03-01-2007 - 1:55pm

I don't understand why guys get so upset about this. A few years ago my then-bf and I were out in Idaho visiting his college roommate. We all went to some wild hot springs to take a dip. As is customary, no one had clothes on, although it wasn't at all sexual. Anyhow, said roommate had a very large penis, flaccid at least, and my boyfriend seemed to become _visibly_ upset being around him after that was revealed. It was like he kept watching it out of the corner of his eye, and then became a bit passive-agressive for the rest of the trip.

It seems like guys think that it is better to have a huge penis and cum a lot than to be smart, well-off, fit, etc. Guess what! A fat wheezing guy who is in his 40s and lives with mom could have a foot long penis and shoot out gallons of sperm, but he would never get to do that with a cool girl! Please. Enough about this already. I have small boobs and I suppose I am ever so slightly jealous of women who have nice ones. But it's like the 2,000th thing on my wish list. Why are penii different????

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Registered: 06-29-2006
Thu, 03-01-2007 - 1:59pm
"Most guys" couldn't care less what some women think about the size of their package.
The few women who require a really big one, wouldn't be found attractive by "most guys".
once.
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Registered: 12-20-2004
Thu, 03-01-2007 - 5:28pm
It is different for those who are insecure because a penis is viewed as a sexual "tool", breasts are normally not viewed as a fuctional sex tool, but more of something to look at.
These guys think this way... If my member isnt "big, good, thick" enough then my sexual tool isnt good enough...and they know just about all vaginas are good enough to please a man, whether the breasts are big or small.
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Registered: 07-05-2005
Sat, 03-10-2007 - 5:11am

Your ex bf's instincts surfaced. While not all perhaps, I would wager that many guys who appear secure would show signs of envy under those circumstances. I believe that women who say it makes no difference whatsoever are the kettle calling the pot black. For just like guys that overrate it are inaccurate, women that speak for most women and underrate it are inaccurate also. I know what's what from study. And as far as what women prefer (and women can have a preference without it being important), recently in the past month or so I've even ran some polls at the UK Ivillage site and the results backed it up: Girth and length poll, different vocals when having sex with different sizes poll, bulge watching poll. Women who say size makes no difference, or that they prefer average, are not in the vast majority, but yet adamantly proclaim they are amongst the vast majority. While it's true that size is not an important issue to the vast majority of women (except for size queens that make up about 1 out of every 8 women, and therefore 7 out 8 women are not size queens), but just because it's not important does not mean it does not have an effect. And sure, the clitoris and g spot that 'sex experts' like to answer the size question with are indeed main areas, but the posterior fornix gets no mention, the cul de sac gets no mention, that the vagina does contain at least some nerves (its not a dead void) beyond the first three inches and therefore women can feel the amount of fullness gets no mention. What gets no mention is that the majority of women state extra girth makes a difference to them. However, Masters and Johnson often gets mentioned by 'sex experts' because M&J ran a "study" that stated the average size penis is 5.25 inches and that women have no feeling beyond the first three inches. What gets left out is that Masters and Johnson were husband and wife, that the "study" was self measurement guys reported in. Hardly the scientific study it's proclaimed to be by sex experts using it to go by. Polls where guys measure themself typically arrive at about 6.25 inches as average length (doctors' staff measured studies at about 5.75 inches) So why did this one poll from long ago (the 1950s) state one inch shorter. It's as though someone took an inch off the result. M&J hardly deserve to be proclaimed the absolute source to go to without questions being raised.

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Registered: 06-29-2006
Mon, 03-12-2007 - 11:02pm
Looks like you are never going to give up this premise that "penis size matters to all women".
As far as insecurity goes, I doubt that most men who are equipped with average sized (5 to 7 inches with average girth) are nearly as concerned with the issue as you seem to feel they may be.
One thing is certain. Even a guy who has been blessed with a smaller than average sized member can find a woman who will be more than happy to accommodate him, if he doesn't lack the social skills that physicality are of no use when it comes to acquiring them.
once.
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Registered: 07-05-2005
Tue, 03-13-2007 - 10:27pm

Read my posts and nowhere do I say size matters to all women as you just now tried to portray I do. A made up quote. You're not reading what I say or refusing to. I said that the polls indicate size counts at least somewhat to many more women than naysayers will admit. Everybody has opinion, and everybody always thinks their own opinion is correct. I go more into it than that. Even though I have my bias, just as evetyone does, I'm much more objective than the posts I see by naysayers. Objective does not seem to be a strong suit for most people. Objective means to look at all the results, not to walk around or turn one's back when a result doesn't agree with them, and it means to tell the entire picture instead of only part of it. From the UK Ivillage site, the poll I set up, notice that the size 'Average length with average girth' took in 19% and the choice 'Other' took in 7% of the vote. Together they add up to 26% of the votes, or in other words, about 1 out of every 4 women. That leaves 74%, or approximately 3 out of 4 women choosing extra size in some way. Of course the poll isn't saying it's important. It's only important to size queens, which from my studies appears to make up about 13% of women (about one out of every 8 women).

Ladies, favorite erect penis size for intercourse - length and girth combined

Average length with average thickness
15 votes (19%)

Above average length with average thickness
4 votes (5%)

Long with average thickness
0 votes (0%)

Average length with some extra thickness
17 votes (21%)

Above average length with some extra thickness
9 votes (11%)

Long with some extra thickness
5 votes (6%)

Average length and thick
8 votes (10%)

Above average length and thick
4 votes (5%)

Long and thick
13 votes (16%)

Choice not available above (please post it into thread)
6 votes (7%)


81 people have voted so far

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Registered: 06-29-2006
Wed, 03-14-2007 - 8:01am
OK!
Soooo What??
What is one to do with this information?
Does it mean that if a guy is average or less in size, he should monitor his woman to make sure she isn't visiting one of the "many" guys out there who are over ten inches in length?
Or, does it mean that he should just forgo any sexual relationship, and just be a provider for some woman while she visits one of these guys?
I still don't think there is any point in dwelling on something that one can do nothing to change.
once.

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