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| Thu, 01-11-2007 - 6:53am |
This isn't another 'does size matter' question. I'm asking the ladies how many of your boyfriends and husbands have had penis size insecurity, and how many didn't. Also, to the guys, have you had or do you have, insecurity about your size?

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You believe size can't be changed. I know that it can. I've told this before, and I've even explained why it can be, but your mind is made up without complete knowledge. So that point of yours (that nothing can be done anyway) is a moot point to me. The poll information can be useful. And besides, seeking accurate info in any subject doesn't necessarily mean it has to be useful. Many guys would seek to be bigger if they knew it was possible, but your constant posting that nothing can be done (you've posted that viewpoint a number of times)helps see to it they will never know.
Your posts consist of saying size doesn't matter at all except to size queens and growth is impossible anyway.
My posts consists of saying size makes a difference to most women but is not important to them except for size queens, and growth is possible.
So your posts about the size debate may can be said to help guys feel less insecure, but offers no physical hope to those that need more than words to feel secure.
My posts about the size debate may can be said to not help guys' insecurity, but on the other hand I say growth is possible. The main difference between my posts about the size debate and about growth, and your posts about the size debate and about growth, is mine are accurate and yours aren't. Yet I'm the bad guy. You're viewed as the good guy in this issue, I know that. To insecure guys you bring a positive message (size doesn't matter) and negative message (nothing can be done). I bring a negative message (size counts) and positive message (something can be done). I give up though. You and the others can go back to your misinformation. I'll leave everyone alone about it.
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Size doesn't matter.
You can't change what you've got. If that was possible, 9 out of 10 (That's more than the 4 out of 5 dentists who thought Trident was good) men would be dangling down between their knees.
As an avid lover of the penis who just happens to have one, there's nothing at all desirable about a deformed looking piece of flesh that's been subjected to hanging weights or vacuum pumps.
And that's just the physical, dealing with a man who is fixated on his penis one way or the other is just insufferable.
Edited 3/15/2007 6:52 pm ET by been-there
This first bit is to you Cerryl,
Yes it is clear from the post here that penis size does matter more to men. However, in real life I have found that penis size is indeed very important to women. Perhaps it is the group that I associate with, but most of the women that I know well have at least once commented on the fact that a guy did not measure up. Further, many of them have expressed great delight and satisfaction in discovering a "big one."
Just the other day I was out with a group of friends and talking to Amy when she motioned to a guy across the room and said to me "I almost hooked up with him last week until I felt his small dick." I was a little shocked; she is an attorney and not someone whom I would expect to make such comments. When I asked her to explain she said that if it's just for a hook up she wants at least average (6 inches is her thought of average). Evidently the accepted average of just over 5 inches is too small for her. I then suggested that she shouldn't make comments like that to men unless she is certain it won't hurt there feelings. This lead to me showing her my penis and asking her to guess its length - she came up with 8 inches (I WISH) - and definitely stated that I was larger than all but one she had seen. Even that doesn't help with my insecurity.
Most recent ex-girlfriend - upon having sex for the first time mentioned that the last guy she slept with was longer and thick. Great boost to my self-esteem. Then went on to say that was the second largest she had ever seen. Now she has recanted that statement and said that most of them she has seen were in my size range - sure they were. She has stated that she plans on telling the size of the next guy she sleeps with; I hope its two inches:) Anyway, she would always tell me about her friends complaining about little dicks they would run into, or gloating over the huge one they landed.
During law school I slept with a girl whose ex was dating my ex and when she saw my penis she said "oh, now I see." I guess her ex must have been over 8 inches. From then on in our friendship she always made comment about small dick around me.
The last two girls that I hooked up with thought that my penis was huge. One was a stripper and the other a waitress. The stripper was harder to read, but I think that both of them were being very honest in their statements. Despite this I am still insecure.
OK - I do have a larger than average penis. I measure 7.5 inches long and 5.25 inches around (give or take a 1/4 inches depending on excitement). In my head I know that I am large - heck, large condoms are more comfortable for me. Still though, I cannot help but wishing that it were bigger. So it is my problem...and I wish I would stop it.
So yes men do care about it, but it is clear to me that women care just as much. I think that most women just refuse to admit it.
Welcome to the board. Do you have a preferred name that we call you?
It seems as if you are asking all of these women how they feel about the size of a man's penis. If you are feeling insecure, perhaps that is feeding your insecurities. It also seems like these women are interested in sex for the sake of sex -- which might be why they are more concerned about size. Just like a man who prefers large breasts may choose women with large breast for casual sex -- that doesn't mean he will never find a small breasted woman attractive, or be in a relationship with one.
Here's a different POV that you can consider. I love the feel of a penis bumping or hitting against my cervix. My first lover was well endowed, and I enjoyed the 'full feeling' of having sex with him. In the case of my first lover (which was a 3 year relationship), I was not able to orgasm during IC without added clitoral stimulation. With future lovers (of a more average size), I found that I could still 'feel full' with his penis inside of me because my PC muscles are in good tone. There are many sexual positions that will allow an "average" penis to bump or hit my cervix, but the average penis is also able to stimulate my g-spot within the same thrust as hitting my cervix. Since "thrust distance" doesn't seem to change with the size of the penis, I find that I get more benefit from a penis that is in the average size range, and find that I can orgasm during IC without added stimulation.
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"And that's just the physical, dealing with a man who is fixated on his penis one way or the other is just insufferable."
Good point cerryl! Just like guys want a woman who has a good self-image and is secure in the bedroom....woman want men to be thinking about a lot more than the size of their penis!
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Since you are critisizing the scientific viability of the Master's and Johnson study, let me offer my own thoughts on your data. Your "poll" on ivillageUK is very likely not informative as it suffers from volunteer bias. The people who voluntarily take time to respond to a question are almost never representative of the population in general. This is especially true when you are sampling from a sub-culture community like an ivillage sex board which is also certainly not representative of the general population. I aslo notice that you have not bothered to post the confidence intervals around your estimates (not that they mean anything with such biased data).
At any rate, penis lengthening surgeries cary risks of complications and will likely result in reduced function. Also, the amount of increase is rather small.
No doubt most women have some sort of preference about what sort of penis is ideal. You acknowledge that it is not that important to most women. They also have preferences about height, distrubution of body hair, waist to hip ratio, gluteal size, shoulder width, jaw size, nose size, hair and eye colour, etc. You probably don't match the exact prefferences of most women in any of those categories, few men do. I think that penis size differences rarely actually result in different choices in sexual partners among women. Get over it.
Hey, I got dumped because my big toe wasn't big enough.
or, was it that my 2nd toe was bigger than my big toe? I don't understand why, everyone knows it's the little guy on the end that goes WHEE WHEE WHEE all the way home.
Misty,
Thank you for your comments. I do think that these women are fueling my insecurity and I wish it would stop. I know that I have nothing to worry about-either my size or skill (unless I run across anymore women who think it is too big). My insecurity does not dominate my life but then again I can't get over it.
Again thank you for your words.
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