% of guys-penis size insecurity

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Thu, 01-11-2007 - 6:53am
This isn't another 'does size matter' question. I'm asking the ladies how many of your boyfriends and husbands have had penis size insecurity, and how many didn't. Also, to the guys, have you had or do you have, insecurity about your size?

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Sun, 01-14-2007 - 10:52pm

>>...and imagine what it does for the black guys who do not have big penises?<<

LOL! Yeah. I hadn't thought of that!

Do you think that the whole tongue ring thing is about sexual performance? I know that I wouldn't automatically *assume* that someone with a tongue stud/ring has it for any sexual purpose. Sure, it's a wide-spread belief that they can enhance oral sex, but that's not something that I automatically assume that it's for. Am I just being naive?

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Mon, 01-15-2007 - 7:03am

Just about everything we do has an ingrained reason that has to do with our existence.

I've wondered if guys covering themselves in tattoos has the same purpose as bodybuilding, just from a different angle. Some men build their muscles in order to stay in shape, and it can have a reasoning that it prolongs life to have a moderate exercise routine, but one reason is that it makes men look better. Looking better is part of the ingrained need to be attractive to the opposite sex. So what does that have to do with tattoos. Well, ever noticed how many guys with tattoos obviously don't workout, or how many bodybuilders don't have tattos or when they do it's unusual to see one covered in them. I think tattoo guys view it as an alternative form to muscles for feeling attractive, whether they realise it of not. And just like a few guys become obsessed and propelled by this ingrained feeling and then take it to the extreme in bodybuilding, the same happens to a few guys in tattooing themselves.

I'm not saying that guys can't do both, for some do, but that trends appear, the reasoning ingrained, and different approaches occur for the same purpose.

Not to mention that the same may can be said about penis size. Many guys do feel that it is a form of attraction for the women. Many guys would have more size if they thought they could. The penis pill industry is bs, but the sellers are raking in the money because of so many guys trying it. Now that I think about it, that alone should indicate just how much insecurity exists, at least on some level. And I believe that even some, if not many, 'secure' guys would not turn down the opportunity to be bigger. It's just that it would have to be quick and easy for a 'secure' guy to bother, and he might not want to gain all that much, whereas someone like me who's security level is not set so high is willing to put far more effort and time into it and wants to have a third leg.

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Mon, 01-15-2007 - 9:44am
The tattoo/muscle building analogy is interesting.
I think that most would prefer to advertise
their desirability by wearing the latest fashion apparel.
As far as one being able to increase the size of their penis
simply by using it or masturbation technique, I think if this worked,
the average size would have already risen to over ten inches in length and seven inches in circumference.
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Mon, 01-15-2007 - 10:21am

"Am I just being naive?"

....uh...yes... ;-)

Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )
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Mon, 01-15-2007 - 10:35am

Jelqing is far from the only exercise. Besides, I don't consider jelqing to be useful for length gains (though perhaps it can be somewhat for girth)on it's own. It is quite possibly very useful when used with other exercises though. I started out only jelqing and didn't gain anything that way. Also, jelqing is not the same as masturbation. It's different. Also, as I already said, exercise gains are slow and so far appear perhaps limited. It's like you didn't read a thing I said. I suppose you won't this post either. I don't blame you, most people think that way, having been taught that. How many times have people been incorrect over the centuries because of a lack of knowledge and understanding. People like to say, well, the penis isn't a muscle. So? What does that have to do with the price of tea in China? (For the record though, there is type of muscle involved in part of the penis). Not being a muscle means it can't be changed? Also, we don't just stretch the penis, we stretch the ligaments. It's very well known ligaments of the body stretch. Yet suddenly people become blind to this if it involves the ligaments of the penis. It's all risky if someone is not very well informed. Knowing what I now know, I wouldn't even consider doing them if I wasn't a member of a very thorough knowledgeable penis forum. You don't understand, and that's ok with me.

Do you know I also thought the same way as you for the vast majority of my life. Why wouldn't I, it's what I had always heard. Out of desire I just happened to decide to read a bit on it one night. I started doing jelqing that I had heard of and read instructions off some webpage, for months with no results. I afterwards found them. I'm very lucky to have found the forum when I did, for I was about to give up. But when I first found it I was skeptical. Yet as time went on and I read more and more I could see how down to earth and very studious the community was. I was also lucky to have found them because they aren't like a couple of other PE forums that charge money, even include pills (profit to be made). One such community has a loony tunes owner that has lied about his gains, photoshopping them, and is a drug addict. I don't want to get into that, but am merely trying to show you I do know what's what. My gains are not great, but not bad either, and I really haven't been consistent for some time now, so I feel that my gains would probably be more now if I had. Still, after several years, from 6 1/4" ( pressing into the fatpad to the pubic bone)length x 4 3/4" girth to 7 1/2" length (pressing into the fatpad to the pubic bone)x 5" girth are results. I mention the pressing, because it's not the way doctor studies are performed. They measure to the fatpad.

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Mon, 01-15-2007 - 10:55am

Shortier, in order to help women out there who are with men who have an insecurity, why don't you tell us what exactly you would expect from a woman to make you feel more secure? Be specific, as well (how long she would have to do these things, etc.)

I will confess this: Whenever I fantasize, the men always have large penises and testicles--the men are never average or small. It's something I have never thought about until this board (and its' neverending threads on penis-size). I think that it may be some biological response in the same vain as hip-to-waist ratio or breast size is to men? Perhaps in the deep subconscious mind I associate it with "masculinity," even though my conscious mind knows differently. I don't know.

Anyhow....Shortier....what are some things that a woman should and shouldn't do to help a man with his insecurities?

Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )
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Mon, 01-15-2007 - 11:06am

For some guys (as you stated but I would say that's a minority) I could see tats as a way of feeling attractive but I don't think for the majority of


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Mon, 01-15-2007 - 11:22am

I can certainly mostly agree with your post. Still though, have you ever noticed how many heavily covered tattooed guys hardly have any muscles to speak of.

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Mon, 01-15-2007 - 11:50am

Tish, I would have to agree that not "all" people get tatoos for "attention" but many do, there's no denying that. I would have to say it could go either way. You would have to know the "person" to make a fair judgement.

But anyhow....my husband's cousin has his two children's faces tattooed on his arm and I've seen your picture on another board where your tattoo of your "parrot" on your chest is exposed (BTW, the link to the picture page on that board has not been working ever since the last changes to the site were made, so you may want to alert the CL there.) I doubt that my husband's cousin is trying to attract the opposite sex with his kid's pics and I could certainly think of plenty of "sexier" things than a parrot (and your own parrot, at that) to attract men.... tee hee




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Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )
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Mon, 01-15-2007 - 12:08pm
I really don't think there is anything that a women can do to help a guy who has insecurities in regards to his body image.
This is true, be it a particular organ, or his overall structure.
Some people have a problem with being somewhat shorter in stature than others, just as some have issues with being considerably taller than average.
The only person who can solve these issues is the person who has them.
Just as the one member has indicated he was able to increase his genital size to that which HE finds acceptable for him, a person who is overweight can and often does find a way to address theirs.
If a particular woman expresses dissatisfaction with their SO's body build, and makes it an issue, both he and she need to look elsewhere for companionship.
In any event, if a man's partner insists that it isn't a problem (size), then it is up to the man in torment to find a way psychologically to deal with his insecurities.
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