% of guys-penis size insecurity

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Thu, 01-11-2007 - 6:53am
This isn't another 'does size matter' question. I'm asking the ladies how many of your boyfriends and husbands have had penis size insecurity, and how many didn't. Also, to the guys, have you had or do you have, insecurity about your size?

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Registered: 11-26-2004
Mon, 01-15-2007 - 12:22pm

Oh, I see it now....you were being sarcastic in your response to Tish...

...on another note...ever notice how "long" the penis threads always get.... ;-)

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Mon, 01-15-2007 - 1:43pm
Tish I totally agree with your post.This obsession with size some men have is assuming all women want a large penis, when that just is not true.Its been my experience that women with large vaginas may want a larger penis, but the average woman (most women fall into this category) or even women with small vaginas say size doesnt matter because most people are of around the average size, and that size fits them well. If anything, fit would probably be a better term than size.
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Mon, 01-15-2007 - 2:51pm

I think you and I have discussed this before. I see you haven't hanged your mind, as I haven't either. I still agree that 'size doesn't matter' to most women. I'll point out again though, that polls indicate most women 'prefer' extra girth, and that 7" is the favorite length for intercourse (visually speaking, which would be to the fatpad), 6" is a close second, and 8 " is a close third. 9" and longer comes in a distant fourth, and 5" is a very distant fifth, but has a small percentage of it's fans. 'Does not matter' does not mean there can't be a 'preference'. It just means that favorite penis size is not a priority amongst most women.

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Mon, 01-15-2007 - 3:26pm
First off, I will admit that size does matter, but not the way you think. If it is really small or really big, that probably does matter to some extent. Another thing is, you are assuming women actually know the actual size a man is..I have found that to be so not true.I have had a couple women tell me that I was so big, and then I asked them, "ok how big do you think it is"? They both thought I was at least 8" and one thought it was closer to 9"...I`m 7" .Most women in these surveys have never measured, so they really have no idea. Here is another reason why ,at least length, wont matter to most women..If a guy has an 8" penis, but only 6 or 7" can fit in, what good is the excess? you see most women have an average size vagina, and most guys have an average size penis. Its the fit that really matters here, Been. Why would a shallow woman want a huge 9" penis?..In 99% of the cases she will not.
Here is the problem that makes guys "think" most women want a longer penis. probably only 5-10 percent of women are size queens..But you know, in the US alone that would equate to 15 million who are size queens and 135 million who are not. My guess size queens are way more vocal.
As for visual preference ok, maybe bigger is better there, but ,Yanno, that doesnt mean they "enjoy" a bigger one better...Most men may say big boobs are attractive but you think they wont totally enjoy intercourse with a small breasted woman?..And if it interfers with their enjoyment, then that is what is commonly known as shallow.
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Mon, 01-15-2007 - 3:38pm

"Its been my experience that women with large vaginas may want a larger penis...."

Hump, so does the converse also apply? That men who want a "tight" vagina, have small penises? ;-) ...and of course, men with large penises would then want women with large vaginas? tee hee

...and it could just be that a woman is turned on aesthetically by large penises, no...just as men are turned on by large breasts? Or maybe she has some other reason why she desires a larger man....just as a man does for a certain type of derriere, or firm breast.

I know it's been your experience, but you say it as though it's a given that if a woman happens to like a large penis, she MUST have a large vagina. You say it as though she's defective in some way. I always get the feeling that you are trying to overcompensate and "hurt" women who would enjoy large penises and yet I never hear you ream one into any men who "desire" a tight vagina. Your comment is akin to me commenting every time a man says he prefers a "tight" vagina, "You must have a small penis." It just isn't so...Hump. Perfectly healthy "snug" vaginas, might simply enjoy a larger penis for several reasons...not just because she "requires" it.

You never fail to chime in with this irrelevant fact.... now just stop it.... ;-)




Edited 1/15/2007 3:51 pm ET by rain_dancer_iam
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Mon, 01-15-2007 - 4:08pm
rainy, I would bet that a man with a tiny penis DOES want a really tight woman...lol..I agree with you that snug is nice..I have always said that the "FIT" is the most important element for physical enjoyment. Sure you may have some women who are average in size who want to be stretched to the limits, but I`m guessing they are in the minority.
I made a reference to the visual aspect of size for both men and women...But I also said that if its just a visual turn on, but the physical part is ok, then it could be a shallow way of thinking.(maybe not too.) women have expressed that a guy was either so tiny they could not feel him (wife had one of those boyfriends) or he was so big, thick, long, etc that she was uncomfortable)My guess is ,the woman with the big guy who was made uncomfotable by his size was herself average or on the small side.On the reverse, a woman who says the guy was so tiny she couldnt feel him, was herself ,at least average if not large sized. There is nothing wrong with having a preference of size requirement, both male or female...It just makes sense the majority of us want a good fit, and for the majority that would mean like to like. Small with small, ave with ave large with large. Of course there can and are variations, and to many it really does not matter. But to some it may.
We are talking "most" or averages. Sure there may be small or ave women who want a huge one, they like the look and the stretched feeling, but again that probably isnt the norm.
Trust me on this, if a woman can accommondate a thick 9" penis, she is on the larger side herself..with most women there would be 2 to 3 inches left over if they are with a man of 9"..AND THATS OK!! nothing wrong with a large vagina, just not my preference....lol (based on my size)
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Mon, 01-15-2007 - 4:12pm
Well, I can't solve the insecurity issues expressed here, I can let you know why the threads become infinite in the numbers of post.
It rests with the fact that not everybody is looking
for the same type of SO, so not everybody will share the same
requirements as to body size or even physical style.
once.
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Mon, 01-15-2007 - 4:56pm

OK, so a 2" longer than you and 1" more in girth constitutes penis that will stretch a woman to the limits? Now a soda-can girth penis, yes, I can see "the limits" being applied, but a slight change in an environment completely elastic, is "stretching" things a bit... ;-) Do you not see the hyperbole in all of this? "Any woman who would want a 9" girthy penis is gargantuan!" tee hee

Anyhow....I wasn't speaking in terms of "requirement" because I personally feel that anything is "workable." If it's a requirement, then people will be abandoning perfectly wonderful people based soley on vagina or penis size.... That is not a preference, that is a requirement...a big difference. I'm not sure from reading that last post if you feel as though that would also be considered "shallow" or is it only if it's a visual preference that makes it so. I'm curious. Would you or any of the other men or women leave a perfectly great woman or man, if it meant that intercourse wouldn't be the end all, be all?

Imagination is more important than knowledge." (Albert Einstein )
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Mon, 01-15-2007 - 5:30pm

Humpdaddy,

You talk as though the typical woman can't take more than 6 to 7 inches. I don't believe that is the case. Guys I've known don't say that, and guys on the on the forum that are 8" and longer don't say it. They do say that 'some' women experience too much discomfort at beyond 8". Women can stretch a lot when they are fully aroused. If 6 to 7 inches was the usual upper limit I would have run into at least a few that would have had trouble even with my former size, but that never happened.




Edited 1/15/2007 5:38 pm ET by been-there
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Mon, 01-15-2007 - 5:37pm
What I meant by shallow was, if a person , even though the other persons body part would work sexually, they discounted the occation or relationship because it didnt meet their "preference of ,say, size visually.
to answer your question, , although sex is an important componet in a relationship with me, it isnt the whole relationship.. Now if my wife cut me off altogether, that might be a different story..I was married to a woman who completely lost any interest in sex, I went to bed thousands of times sexually frustrated in our 24 year marriage. I am not with her any more. Her lack of caring was too much to over come.My now wife has a libido like mine, and things work well...She also has had very long and pretty short.. She liked neither when it came to sexual pleasure.She is a proponent of the "good fit" opinion. She needs to be able to feel it, but doesnt want it so long that he hits bottom.

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