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| Thu, 01-11-2007 - 6:53am |
This isn't another 'does size matter' question. I'm asking the ladies how many of your boyfriends and husbands have had penis size insecurity, and how many didn't. Also, to the guys, have you had or do you have, insecurity about your size?

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That is completely different, than "leaving" someone who loves to have sex with you, but physically it's just not the best. That was basically what my question was. In other words, what if your wife left you because you no longer had erections and intercourse was no longer a viable option? She would be foregoing her "need" for sexual pleasure derived from intercourse. Would that be considered shallow?
You referenced "sex" when you meant "intercourse." There are plenty of ways to have sex sans intercourse.
I just do not think that size is all that much of a "matter" as I have rarely ever heard of any complaints about not "fitting" from either men or women. Most of the "loose" comments referencing women's vagina's were mostly the product of insecure "boys" who were speaking about women barely out of teenagedom. ;-)
You've heard of women not orgasming with a man for years....well....what makes you think that those women were even fully aroused? If a woman is somewhat aroused and relaxed her vagina will feel loose until she becomes fully aroused and internally engorged (approaching orgasm). It's not so unlikely that a woman may not be fully aroused, despite all of the porn squeals and moves she may make. ;=)
I have a theory about why so many women "drop" out with respect to sex. The fact of the matter is that they just do not get much out of it because of the messages they received or didn't receive as a young person and continue to receive from their peers or simply because their bodies do not respond easily to a man's touch. Many women have issues because of many things that are flung at them. EVEN WOMEN WHO HAVE BEEN MARRIED for YEARS to the same man have told me that they would never act a certain way, as they were afraid of acting whorish and being judged negatively. We're not talking about anything out of the ordinary either. And the more a man enjoys it (and is allowed to act whorish), the more she will grow to resent him. It may not even be a conscious thing....
On top of that, she believes that sex is all that he wants from her....(particularly if she is very attractive). She feels "used" even by her own husband. Even if he's good to her, she believes it's because he wants sex from her. Sshe will take it out on him and "punish" him in the way that she feels he deserves to be. Think about it....for every day that you stay with her while she denies you sex, you'll be proving your love for her (her insides, not her outsides). Warped and demented, but true nonetheless..... and that's only one of my theories. Sorry, I got sidetracked, but your comments about your ex-wife made me think of it... My bet is there was nothing wrong with her libido....
Edited 1/15/2007 7:01 pm ET by rain_dancer_iam
As for my ex wife`s libido,she is what is commonly known as a very low libido. What was worse is she was cold and controling. If you have never experienced this type A personality, then you are fortunate. My ex was orgasmic, very much so, orally. She never got much out of just penetration alone. Not with me or any of her other partners.
Back to "fit" ..A good fit may mean something different to different people. I think it is common to want pain free sex, and enough friction to help with pleasure. If I am hurting her, its not a good fit. If she cant feel me, its not a good fit. If I cant feel her its not a good fit. Like you said, snug is good. Variations of these fits are not deal breakers, in my mind. People can adjust what they do and how they do it to try to make it better.Like you, I think said, intercourse is only one aspect of "sex"
I have been with a few women who complained if I hit bottom(accidentally)I am not overly long by most standards.It isnt ideal if one has to always be conscience of how deep he can go.Its not a deal breaker, but its not ideal. I`d say those women felt the same way.On the other hand if a woman really likes a guy to stretch the cul-de-sac, then maybe I ,at 7" might not be her ideal...
This is especially true of a woman who knows her body and what it takes for
her to achieve satisfaction.
As far as the rock stretching goes, I should think that one could achieve the same results by hitting the "offending" organ repeatedly with a two pound wooden mallet.
I'm 9 1/2 inchs and thick I wish there was a way to make it smaller many women complain about becoming sore fast also cant try alot of different things. Never been deep throat either.
At the same time, what is the big deal about having a lady "deep throat" you?
Do you really think it does anything for HER?
Im married so yes lol and Im jw how it would feel also it would make her feel good knowing how much it pleases me I do anything for my DW.
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Why do you assume when you really know very little about it?
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Because I have a penis, 'nuff said. We don't need to open up this discussion again, the concept of enlargement (outside of surgery you'd be stupid to have) is nothing short of quackery designed to prey upon the hearts and minds of insecure men.
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