% of guys-penis size insecurity

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% of guys-penis size insecurity
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Thu, 01-11-2007 - 6:53am
This isn't another 'does size matter' question. I'm asking the ladies how many of your boyfriends and husbands have had penis size insecurity, and how many didn't. Also, to the guys, have you had or do you have, insecurity about your size?

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Registered: 11-13-2006
Thu, 02-15-2007 - 12:01pm

My level of compassion is not the issue.

Jilly

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Registered: 06-29-2006
Thu, 02-15-2007 - 2:24pm
I would never recommend a lady having the type of surgery you mentioned, either.
At the same time, I see no reason that she shouldn't make every attempt to keep her physical well being as fit as possible.
As has been mentioned before, when one or more women insist they can't feel their partner when he is inside her, there surely must be something wrong with her, unless the man is smaller than her finger.
Perhaps she has some sort of nerve damage to this part of her anatomy and that is the problem?
once.
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Registered: 04-17-2003
Thu, 02-15-2007 - 2:41pm
If the 'fit' between a man and a woman is not good, there's really VERY LITTLE she can do about it. No keagals and the like are going to make a profound difference at all. Can't really put this on the woman either, sometimes the fit just isn't good for both, no big deal.

 

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Registered: 07-05-2005
Sat, 02-17-2007 - 8:56am
I realise there are average size guys, and even some small guys, quite secure when it comes to this, but I do wonder if some of those would turn out to not be so rock solid in their security if they were in the restroom taking a piss and her ex walked in and flopped out a soft piece of meat that was much longer and thicker than their own is when erect. I think that in at least some cases some guys can claim size security only because they push the subject to the corner of their mind. To go into a time machine and travel back to witness some guy working her over with a big dick would be unsettling to them, especially if she was reacting in ways they had never seen before. I have a poll going (actually several different polls) at the IVillage UK site where I asked if size effects their vocal reactions and so far the vast majority of women have voted yes, but it's still needing more votes as too few votes have been cast so far in that poll.


Edited 2/17/2007 8:58 am ET by been-there
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Registered: 06-29-2006
Sun, 02-18-2007 - 10:27am
Why should any "small guy" be concerned with the anatomy of his SO's ex?
It must not have been much better, or she and he would have found a way to stay together.
once.
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Tue, 02-20-2007 - 1:49am

No "must not been much better" to it. A relationship isn't all about sex. Take Britney Spears and Federline for example. According to Britney, Timberlake was much smaller and Federline was bigger and much better in intercouse to her. But that was just about all they had going (I watched some of their reality shows on tv), and sex alone didn't hold the relationship together as it eventually fell apart completely. Just because she called it quits with Federline is no indication that she decided the sex with him wasn't fantastic afterall. She called it quits because he was lazy, and cheating on her. According to your logic, if she starts dating someone else regularly then that means her new bf is just as good or better in bed. Come on, surely you know better than that. Her new bf might not be as "fantastic" in bed, but even if he isn't he might be a better father figure, he might not be lazy, he might treat her better, etc. She might like all the positive relationship factors the new bf pocesses and overall prefer the new bf even if the sex isn't as good. (I realise that Britney is going through much at this time, but I'm just giving an example assuming she gets her life back on track).

The point I'm making is that you are bringing relationship into it as proof sex was no better or worse. I don't see how you can think that is logical reasoning when surely you know as well as anyone that relationships depend on many factors and not only sex. This is the sort of thing I see occurring often when someone wants to claim better intercourse or worse intercourse is 'never' about size unless it's too huge to use. They quickly turn it into a relationship thread. Every relationship factor under the sun gets brought into the thread to cloud the topic of size. Take an objective look at the poll I have going at the UK IVillage site and it's clear that size does count as a plus to some women. In fact, long and thick is doing better than even I expected it to (with 21% of the votes). Of course, just because a woman votes for a favorite size doesn't necessarily mean it much matters to her. It doesn't automatically label her a size queen. I believe size queens only make up about 10" to 13% of women, so that leaves close to 90% that don't put importance on it.

I think this is what makes me more accurate than the naysayers to the size debate. I look at all aspects. Naysayers make it a relationsip issue and then conclude size makes no difference whatsoever. They admit there are size queens but think size queens only make up a very scarce number of women. Naysayers never talk about the cul de sac, or the posterior fornix, but they love to bring up the cervix being nailed unfavorably. Unless a woman's cervix is not set correctly in her, which some women do have that problem, the cervix will mostly tilt out of the way if given enough time. Never brought up by naysayers though. Naysayers never admit that 'less nerves beyond the first three inches' is still nerves and therefore must have some feeling. They make the point about the first three inches as though the rest of the vagina is a dead void. I don't discount the clitoris or the g spot as major players. I'm just trying to look at the entire picture, and not inexactly at only the first three inches and the cervix.

I suppose you completely dismiss the results of the poll, except for the average votes.

Edited 2/20/2007 1:52 am ET by been-there




Edited 2/20/2007 1:54 am ET by been-there
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Registered: 04-17-2003
Tue, 02-20-2007 - 11:09am

This thread really goes to show that penis size is very important to one gender: Men.

I would bet the farm that if a guy stimulates a women emotionally and allows her to feel SAFE and SECURE, that's going to do more than any super-sized, super-dooper, never done or seen anything like it penis that you can dream up.

I mean no offense, but I don't think you have the slightest idea how a woman is pleased in bed.

 

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Registered: 06-29-2006
Tue, 02-20-2007 - 5:48pm
Why should anybody be concerned with anything Ms. Spears had to offer?
I find it ironic that anybody who alleges to possess attributes well within
what is considered average dimensions and still be so concerned with this issue.
It seems fairly obvious that since very few men exceed these numbers, rivaled only by the very few who fall below them, a majority of women make do quite nicely with whatever a man has to offer, so long as he can provide for her and their children.
You have never mentioned just what it is that you hope to accomplish with your endless polls concerning this issue.
Care to enlighten me?
once.
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Registered: 07-05-2005
Tue, 02-20-2007 - 7:04pm
So you still refuse to acknowledge the polls results. It's women voting, maybe your questioning should be aimed at them. Don't blame the guy running the polls.
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Registered: 07-05-2005
Tue, 02-20-2007 - 7:10pm
Nothing wrong with me knowing what's what. I haven't said size is 'important' to women (except size queens). You're spinning everything, not to mention went personal.

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