GUYS: sex without feelings

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Registered: 02-06-2006
GUYS: sex without feelings
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Mon, 02-06-2006 - 5:23pm

guys, would you have sex without having feelings for the person?

virgins, would you have sex just for the sake for it with just anyone for the first time? isn't the first time important and special for guys too?

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Registered: 12-20-2004
Wed, 02-22-2006 - 4:48pm
Yes it does.
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Registered: 01-07-2005
Wed, 02-22-2006 - 10:41pm

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In an interview she did she said that after being a man for 18 mos., she went back to some of those same groups, as a female and told the men who she was. She said that several of the men she bonded with as a man, had no issue bonding with her a female and she was suprised to realize as their female friend, they shared a more intimate part of themselves with the female her, than they had with the male her.

What that told her was that men do desire to verbally share intimacy but they hide it around their male friends. She sees that as society's stigma for the male gender.

I've known current man for over 10 years, friends for years and all during those years he was so open about his feelings/thoughts. It was one of the things I admired about him. However, i have discovered that when in an intimate relationship he sorta closes that door. Very surprising to discover it and I wasn't expecting it. I love my man, but I miss my open friend!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 02-23-2006 - 2:42am

Yes, I've seen several interviews with her discussing what she learned from the experiment and how the men she befriended reacted to finding out that she was actually a woman. In one instance, the man responded with "so THAT'S why you were such a good listener!" I thought that was funny.

But I've always found that my male friends told me things that they would never tell a male friend for fear of judgement or ridicule. And my DH has testified that that's the case for most men he knows.

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