Guys these days ... lol

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Guys these days ... lol
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Mon, 07-12-2004 - 1:56pm
Gosh I feel like sexual customs are changing or something: I have a brand new relationship and we had sex for the first time last night. Without acting like it was the slightest bit unusual, when he was ready to orgasm he pulled out, yanked off the rubber, and held his penis about a foot or so over my face and masturbated all over me! Is this normal? I mean I have had a couple of men do similar things in the past but only when I knew them! I didn't so much mind as I was totally surprised ... there was nothing -mean- about it, he snuggled up afterwards and was totally friendly and cool ... I was like, ummm, OK ... one of my eyes was bloodshot this AM but otherwise I'm no worse for the wear ... still this is so wierd, I'm laughing b/c I guess I'm just not _au courant_ ....

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Mon, 07-12-2004 - 2:08pm
I think if he were au_courant, then he'd realize that NOT all women appreciate facials and that some even find it degrading. Obviously, he's either ignorant or didn't care either way what you thought. Since you don't seem bothered by it, expect it again the next time, and just ask him to please warn you so that you can at least protect your eyes.
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Mon, 07-12-2004 - 2:11pm
I hope this isn't becoming the new thing because I hate it. I think he should have told you he was going to do that - especially the first time! Whoa. I could see him climaxing on your breasts the first time, but on your face? I would have to say something to him. My husband likes doing this also, although lately he has been listening to my strong aversion of him doing that and he's better about it.
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Mon, 07-12-2004 - 2:14pm
I guess that's right. I don't find it degrading per se ... all I was laughing about is that it was done so casually ... if I asked afterward, I bet he would have said, "what is it, Sally??" Anyhow, whatever turns ya on ... we're all wired up how we're wired up I guess ... it's all fun and games until someone gets an eye put out! ;-)
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Mon, 07-12-2004 - 2:20pm
No, I don't feel it's normal for a guy to do this without finding out first if the woman is ok with it.

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Registered: 05-14-2004
Mon, 07-12-2004 - 2:24pm
Please get your eye checked, you can get STD's in your eyes. And if it were me, I would never date him again. That is just plain rude....!
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Mon, 07-12-2004 - 2:26pm
Well...yes, but it's not that simple. I think that with something like this, a man should at least have enough respect to "consider" the recipient. That his wires shouldn't outweigh yours, when it involves YOUR body. You happened to be OK with it, but what you have to consider is that the next girl may not be, and he thinks that it's OK to just do as he pleases. In other words, let's say you were were into golden showers. Would you just sit on him and pee in his face without considering that he might not like it and even might hate it? Just because one person is wired a certain way, doesn't give them the "right" to impose such wiring on others. Sex, like anything else, requires respect and consideration to be mutually pleasurable to both parties. As I said, unless he's THAT ignorant, I'd worry that he wasn't respectful and considerate of MY body.
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Mon, 07-12-2004 - 2:28pm
Oh, for sure I would guess he just thought I would love it. He must have had some other lovers who did? Surely that's it. Plus, my god, it -is- pretty hot i guess. I don't think for a minute that he would have been purposefully disrespectful, I really don't. He's extremely cool and polite. Again, I'm really not the least bit annoyed, I was just giggling because sometimes I feel so out of the loop! ...
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Mon, 07-12-2004 - 2:31pm
That's true. Hmmm. Yeah if he had peed on me or something I would have just COMPLETELY freaked. (Yuck!!! ... what -is- it with that peeing stuff that gets people off? Don't see anything remotely sexy about it.)
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Mon, 07-12-2004 - 2:35pm
Hi Sally,

While I think facials are becoming more common, they certainly are not the norm.

And while I LOVE giving a good facial (and my wife enjoys too) I think he should have asked first since not all women are okay with this.

In fact it's generally known that in the Kobe case, he wanted to ejaculate on the woman's face, she said no, and he did it anyway -- according to some, that's what started this rape case.

Jeff

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Mon, 07-12-2004 - 2:39pm
Was it really? Generally known? I just did a search on the net for "Kobe Bryant facial" tee hee and nothing came up? How are you privy to such information?

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