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Guys these days ... lol
| Mon, 07-12-2004 - 1:56pm |
Gosh I feel like sexual customs are changing or something: I have a brand new relationship and we had sex for the first time last night. Without acting like it was the slightest bit unusual, when he was ready to orgasm he pulled out, yanked off the rubber, and held his penis about a foot or so over my face and masturbated all over me! Is this normal? I mean I have had a couple of men do similar things in the past but only when I knew them! I didn't so much mind as I was totally surprised ... there was nothing -mean- about it, he snuggled up afterwards and was totally friendly and cool ... I was like, ummm, OK ... one of my eyes was bloodshot this AM but otherwise I'm no worse for the wear ... still this is so wierd, I'm laughing b/c I guess I'm just not _au courant_ ....

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Im sorry to hear you've had some bad experiences. When done lovingly and as part of mutual sex play, it can be a lot of fun -- as David describes.
To the original poster: I think you should talk to your guy, but it seems like many of the women here (Im blushing, etc) seem like you should dump him no matter what. It sounds like you like this as part of sex play, and you can communicate that with him as long as he's satisfying your needs too (which may include NOT having him ejaculate on you every time).
And while I said it's certainly not the norm, it IS becoming more common. I'm in graduate school and around students and I know that. Probably just like oral sex is totally common now and it may not have been 75 years ago. I believe porn did have an influence here but it seems like many women simply view this as part of fun kinky sex play. I totally agree that noone should ever have the head held because that's clearly a control issue.
Jeff
jcon35@yahoo.com
If you really feel this way, that's sad. I myself enjoy the act, but my DH has never forced it on me. There are plenty of men who don't like it or could live without it, and no one should do it for fear of losing a man.
Leticia
Why Jeffy, you never write, you never call anymore then I find my name in a post. You sly devil. lol
Sharon
A friend is the person who kn
No, it's not a fact. It's a matter of *opinion*. And IMHO, a very jaded point of view.
>>dont fool yourself. sex is important to guys and they are going to weed thru those who don't and those who do.<<
Again, that's just opinion. And sex is just as important to me as it is to my husband. If you truly feel like you have to do it all no matter what your personal tastes/feelings are about it, perhaps you are looking in the wrong places. I have never heard of a guy who didn't care what his partner enjoyed/wanted. And if all he cared about is what he wants, why would you want him?
Leticia
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