Guys these days ... lol

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Guys these days ... lol
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Mon, 07-12-2004 - 1:56pm
Gosh I feel like sexual customs are changing or something: I have a brand new relationship and we had sex for the first time last night. Without acting like it was the slightest bit unusual, when he was ready to orgasm he pulled out, yanked off the rubber, and held his penis about a foot or so over my face and masturbated all over me! Is this normal? I mean I have had a couple of men do similar things in the past but only when I knew them! I didn't so much mind as I was totally surprised ... there was nothing -mean- about it, he snuggled up afterwards and was totally friendly and cool ... I was like, ummm, OK ... one of my eyes was bloodshot this AM but otherwise I'm no worse for the wear ... still this is so wierd, I'm laughing b/c I guess I'm just not _au courant_ ....
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Mon, 07-12-2004 - 5:12pm
Yeah I can't imagine the "very rough" thing - that'd be in insanely bad taste. I'm talking more about, the girl's very pretty, maybe wearing a sexy outfit, I've just had her beside herself with glee, she's got her mouth wide open and her tongue fully extended, her eyes are pretty much shut, and she asks me to do it ... then it's tons of fun! One of the hottest times I can remember was, I stood up on the bed and facialed her like crazy, then she basically pushed me down on my butt and jumped back on top of me and orgasmed some more as I deflated. She was dripping my own emissions all over the place and was just so into it. I remember thinking, wow this is _amazingly_ hot. We both loved every second. But we had had an extensive sexual experience together; certainly wasn't like we just started doing this right away.
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Mon, 07-12-2004 - 5:52pm
Sounds hot. Oh, the things I could tell - but I just won't.
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Tue, 07-13-2004 - 9:26am
TR,

Im sorry to hear you've had some bad experiences. When done lovingly and as part of mutual sex play, it can be a lot of fun -- as David describes.

To the original poster: I think you should talk to your guy, but it seems like many of the women here (Im blushing, etc) seem like you should dump him no matter what. It sounds like you like this as part of sex play, and you can communicate that with him as long as he's satisfying your needs too (which may include NOT having him ejaculate on you every time).

And while I said it's certainly not the norm, it IS becoming more common. I'm in graduate school and around students and I know that. Probably just like oral sex is totally common now and it may not have been 75 years ago. I believe porn did have an influence here but it seems like many women simply view this as part of fun kinky sex play. I totally agree that noone should ever have the head held because that's clearly a control issue.

Jeff

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Tue, 07-13-2004 - 2:26pm
yes it's basically normal.guys like spurting their load on our faces.they do not ask they just feel entitled.almost all guys expect it and grimice if you wont. gotta go with the flo or you be left out.
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Tue, 07-13-2004 - 2:28pm
Yeah, I'm not sure why everyone assumes I should break up with this guy ... why? He's great! It doesn't bother me, I was just wondering if it's standard operating procedure these days. Doesn't seem to anything the least bit twisted or controlling about it.
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Tue, 07-13-2004 - 3:02pm
>>gotta go with the flo or you be left out.<<

If you really feel this way, that's sad. I myself enjoy the act, but my DH has never forced it on me. There are plenty of men who don't like it or could live without it, and no one should do it for fear of losing a man.

Leticia

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Tue, 07-13-2004 - 3:17pm
hey, the facts are that guys want gals who do it all. the more you do the better. that's the breaking news. dont fool yourself. sex is important to guys and they are going to weed thru those who don't and those who do.
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Tue, 07-13-2004 - 3:44pm

Why Jeffy, you never write, you never call anymore then I find my name in a post. You sly devil. lol



Sharon

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Tue, 07-13-2004 - 3:53pm
Sex is important to both men and women. The sexiest mates are those that are confident and know what they like (and don't). Of course a level of open-mindedness is desirable. But if you do something you really aren't into then that's gonna build resentment and lead the relationship in a bad direction. I've had an ongoing fantasy of doing guys up the bum with a dildo, but none of my partners have agreed to it thus far. Am I gonna dump them for that? No. I want to engage in sex that is mutually satisfying. I would think any man worth being in a relationship with would feel the same.
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Tue, 07-13-2004 - 4:01pm
>>hey, the facts are that guys want gals who do it all. the more you do the better. that's the breaking news.<<

No, it's not a fact. It's a matter of *opinion*. And IMHO, a very jaded point of view.

>>dont fool yourself. sex is important to guys and they are going to weed thru those who don't and those who do.<<

Again, that's just opinion. And sex is just as important to me as it is to my husband. If you truly feel like you have to do it all no matter what your personal tastes/feelings are about it, perhaps you are looking in the wrong places. I have never heard of a guy who didn't care what his partner enjoyed/wanted. And if all he cared about is what he wants, why would you want him?

Leticia